Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Snippet of text conversation (I've fixed the grammar, as I don't use/severely hate "text speak"):

Guy: Remember all that nasty stuff we used to talk about?
Me: Yeah. I miss it.
Guy: I thought you said you didn't like it!
Me: If I didn't like it, then why did I keep responding?
Guy: Yeah. I know. You still masturbate?
Me: Duh. I don't have any available dick.
Guy: Thought you were waiting until you got married.
Me: That's kind of changed.
Guy: Well... I have some available dick. Always did for you.
Me: What are you going to do with it?
Guy: Whatever you want.
Me: ::doesn't respond for a second::
Guy: My girlfriend won't mind.
Me: ::hears tires screech in my mind::

WHAT?! Damn.

Said guy and I go back to the time when I was about sixteen (a whole three years ago). He was one of the three boys in the sexual rotation I had going on in high school. We talk occasionally, and it's normally sexual. It's always fun to slide open my phone with something to read about a hard dick. But, whatever. He NEVER had girlfriends... EVER. For this reason exactly: He's a freak. I felt horrible for talking to him about sex and masturbation while he's in a relationship. Dude, seriously? Come on. I wouldn't consider our exchanges "cheating", per se, but if he were my boyfriend, I wouldn't want him talking about his dick and what he would do to another girl.

Cheating is such an issue in young relationships. Trying to keep someone else happy and satisfied can conflict with keeping yourself happy and satisfied (...or you're just greedy). I can't see myself ever (knowingly) being the "other woman". I know how terrible I would feel if I was giving my all to a relationship, being faithful and honest, and he was poking some other bitch on the side. Am I not good enough? Does he not love me? What the fuck is that bitch doing that I'm not? I mean... I'm all for open relationships, but everyone should be on the same page.

In a perfect world and in perfect relationships, both partners are free to talk about everything and anything, including things of the sexual nature. But, that isn't always how it is. How much fun can sex be if you're not going where you want to go? So... I can *almost* understand why cheating would seem like a good idea. That's almost a fantasy of mine: To never be tied down and to experience all the dick I want. To get a taste of everything. But, I suppose that's a bit unrealistic.

Tyra Banks (whom I severely dislike) once said "Flirt like crazy with her, but then come home and do me". Yeah. I could go for that. But, I'm sure that could turn into the patented "Oh, yes, ::insert other girl's name here::" during an orgasm. That would suck hardcore.

I didn't apologize for saying the things I said, because I don't regret saying them. It's just that I WOULDN'T have said them had I have known that he had a girlfriend. Oh well. There's plenty of other dick in the sea.