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Lol. Every time I see an asterisk in a word, my mind plays a "beep". I never realized I was such a written potty mouth.

I only asterik for the front page....I love your potty mouth

"I see my body as an instrument, rather than an ornament." - Alanis Morissette

...by joining a real or virtual mutual masturbation group. Check out http://advancedmasturbation.com/mutual/stories.html and let us know what you find.

See me and my story in the Art Gallery: http://dodsonandross.com/art/coming-age

I find it fun to read your stuff.  It's a fun blend of your unique interests and reminds me of my early 20s and my recent return to such adventures.

I was young and wild and free once...I had an open marriage and a girlfriend on the side to prove it.  Fast forward about 20 years and I realize that I miss my carefree self (although, not as much as I enjoy the stability and fabulous companionship of my marriage of 17 yrs.).  2 out of 3 children have left the nest and this bird has launched herself out of the tree to enjoy the pure sexual bliss of her youth.

I have met wonderful women for great food, public sexual firting and dancing, followed by hot sex.  I have taken my husband out of his usual comfort zone and introduced him to the swing club where strangers converge for whatever agreed upon activities they choose.  I have had great sex with women whose names I didn't quite catch while my husband, a true voyeur, has taken in the visual erotica of a tangle of bodies touching, groping and pleasuring in a variety of ways.  (There is something to be said for a multitude of hands sliding over your skin at the same time.)

So, your idea of having crazy sex with a stranger(s) in a candy store in a mass of gummy bears is possible.  If you believe the idea is as fun in reality as it is in fantasy (some things are better enjoyed in your head only) then go for it (making sure your safety issues are covered off, of course.)

I'd like to read about an adventure from you Miss MVB, you may retain your virgin status, but I want to read about your skin on skin experience.  Reach for something you never thought you'd really do...then tell us about it.

What about if glory-holes were a bit more 'organized'.

You could be entirely confident that the person on the other side was properly tested for STD/STIs beforehand. There would have to be some kind of screening process where you were only authorized to be on either side of the "hole" after your results came in clean.

..the next idea adds a bit of variation to the typical.

With a 1-way mirror, ONE side could see who was on the other side. Only one person involved would have anonymity.. while the other individual would have a perfect view of the event.

It is interesting to imagine a scenario where a man gets to 'choose' the woman who will suck him off through the glory hole, and enjoy the experience, but all without her ever knowing who he was. In reverse, a woman could see the men behind the glass, and choose who they preferred.. but the men would never know who she was.

Its a form of power and security to know who someone is, but without them knowing you. But.. it is likely to remain simply a fantasy.. especially considering I doubt many would want to be on the 'blind' side of the glass.

but maybe some people would be into that side too?

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24 - M - Critical Relativist and Feminist (Equalist) - Canada

I've have very limited (and awkward) experiences. I did blog about
them a while ago, if you want to read the entry:
http://thevirginmonoblog1.blogspot.com/2009/12/urges-and-experience.html

On the topic of having other experiences... My lifestyle doesn't permit,
lol. Out of privacy and respect for my parents, I'm waiting until I
move out before I figure out, truly, what type of (physical) sexual
person I am and what I enjoy.

Joelface, you have some awesome ideas. But, you know something? The anonymity is what is so sexy to me. I wouldn't want the person to know who I am and vice versa. Just to "be used" as a voluntary sex toy for a little while is sexy. :P

Is there something like that (anonymous sex) for just us girls?
I get very wet just thinking about tasting a stranger and making her cum without any eye contact - like just seeing her below the waist.

What do your parents have to do with your body or your sexuality?

"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde

www.christinacicchelli.com

Christina, I swear... You make me delve into the deepest things, lol.

I am severely overprotected. SEVERELY. It would be impossible for me to partake in any sexual activity without having to be sneaky about it. I don't want that. I want to do what I want, when I want, and I can only do that when I'm no longer living here.

Yeah... but do you think it's any of your business if they have sex? I mean, you know they're going to do it. They can assume that you do. So, it's not like they have to sneak around... they just need to be considerate of you as another member of the household.

This is what I assume; I have no idea what your parents' sex life is like (unless it was discussed in one of your previous essays). But, if this is the case, couldn't it go both ways? Couldn't they, perhaps, know that you're sexually active or curious? But they won't really say anything... unless you're with a guy and the bedroom door is open... and you're both in a provocative embrace... hm. I miss high school.

"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde

www.christinacicchelli.com

Well, that really makes sense. I suppose there is something to that. Personally, I'd prefer to still get to see them. aha.

Maybe I just want to have my cake and eat it too. :p

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24 - M - Critical Relativist and Feminist (Equalist) - Canada

My parents fuck like rabbits.

They don't want to accept that I'm a sexual being (Daddy mostly). Not many parents do. They want me to wait until I'm married. There is no possible way I could be fucking in their house. "Hey, Mom? Um... Can I bring home a guy and have sex with him in my room? Is that okay?" No way. When my door is closed for more than ten minutes, I get asked why. So, privacy is a huge issue. "I'll be considered another member of the household when I pay bills"- that will be their logic. As long as I live here and use their water, use their electricity, and drive the care that they're paying for, they can control what I do. It would be impossible for them to accept the thought of me having sex.

Yes, I think it's unfair. Yes, I've tried to argue them down. It's just not fucking worth it. My life isn't going to cease to progress if I'm not having sex. That's such a minute detail in the big picture.

I'd have to agree with VirginMonoBlogger (VMB) regarding her need to be out of her parents home when she begins/continues her partnersex journey. To be surrounded by elements (energetic and physical) that don't support sexual freedom and trying to explore aspects of your sexuality for the first time is miserable. Way too conflicting. Personally I have had a great deal of trouble explaining the connection to a calm mind, a safe private place and great partnersex with the men I've been with. I remember expressing to a man that I wanted to go to the mountains (which we are surrounded by) and make love. I expressed my love of nature, my desire for a calm, quiet, sensual, serene place where we could run around outside naked and be as loud as we want. I can get loud ;). He just looked at me and said he would prefer Hawaii. What The Fuck! I made the mistake of having sex with him twice and I hated it. I just felt like he didn't get me (we were also a bad anatomical match). I really felt like I wasted my glorious sex energy on a person who wasn't accepting of me and I didn't feel free and safe. So VMB if you need to be out of your parents house or married or whatever Please do that. Never allow people to convince you that it would be normal or better to do XYZ when you desire to do ABC. We are all different. Unlike VMB I never had any particular attachment to my virginity and if I did it was based on other people's attitudes not mine. I mean honestly I want dick like I want sunshine! So virginity would kind of fly in the face of that desire, BUT I can understand your need to hold onto yours. And there are partners out there that will understand you also. I promise. If you stay connected to yourself you will know when the time is right. Enjoy your journey!

Peace and Love,

Zara

During my teens and my glorious 'firsts' I was living at home and had the same problem. I never wanted to bring anyone back home. Firstly, my bed squeaks, and I find it less fun to know that my parents know what I'm doing. Secondly, my parents are quite old fashioned - not in the sense that they believe in no sex before marriage, they're fine with the whole sex thing (not that I've ever had the courage to talk to them about it - if anything it just kills the dirty fantasies in my head) I'm getting distracted now...Oh yeah, old fashioned - they tend to think that if I bring one person home one time, I'll bring them back again and again (essentially have a relationship with them) and that just wasn't the case. So instead of trying to explain each situation to my mum, it was much much easier and less stressful to just have sex elsewhere. Which in my case, this meant normally having it in fields or tents or something. Was rather exciting actually. It took me 4 years after my 'first time' to actually have sex in a bed!

But whilst it was erotic in a public, fun and naughty manner, it was a little tedious. I went off to uni, and my GOD THE SEXUAL LIBERATION. I could have anyone I wanted over at any time. The best part about that? My flatmates (all girls) didn't think of me as a slut; they thought of me as a sexual being, and didn't judge me for it. Possibly one of the best things that has happened to me. The worst part? Quitting university and having to move back home. Not only is my boyfriend now 'long distance' (sex how I miss you, masturbation how you save me!) I have to go through this whole respecting my parents thing again.

I don't know about their sex lives - either its non-existant, or they cover it up very well (I'm going to assume the latter) and so I feel obliged to do the same. Then theres the whole squeaky bed thing...I think I'm going to invest in a new bed. =]

I don't mind postponing wild crazy home sex for a few more months - I've done it for 19 years already. I guess being sexually liberated is like how I wish religion would be; believe in it yourself, impart knowledge onto those who ask for it, and don't force it one anyone else. I don't want to force my filthy teenage ways onto my parents! No harm in waiting VMB, you'll have so much fun when the wait is over!