Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Double posted instead of reposted edited version.

This guy is clearly an idiot :) But much of societies  social norms shine through in his profile.  If we have a penis we are coached to be self absorbed by our own desires to the point that we take very little  sexual pleasure in someone elses desire for us. so all the focus and social pressure is on womens appearance. Where is the porn that lets you fantasize about being desired. Exept for ishotmyself.com, nowhere really.  
I know some great guys who if I was mostly androsexual I'd be hot for and I'd position myself where I'd have the best chance of meeting the good ones. In my anocdotal experience carpenters and builders who do sensitive restoration eco build work are totally the best :) on the art side of building you get a great guy who's intelligent, fit, and is good with his hands  and live in a beautiful house /boat / converted treehosue. If I was a woman I would so be a carpenter/joiner architect.  Bit of a ramble sorry :)
By the way I'm not an eco restoration builder :) ha ha 

I have been dating online for almost 2 years. I have met in person over 135
men, spoken to hundreds more... It's interesting to say the least. I have
learned a lot about myself, what I like and don't like. It has been fun but
time consuming. You don't know if th the energy you get from messaging or phone
conversations will transfer to real in person chemistry.
Best to go in without high or low expectations. I don’t meet without a talk.
I talk without a picture. I want someone who is not hiding anything.... like
his marriage! The worst part is that finding a man in tune with female
sexuality is like going to an auction for the Hope Diamond.

Though I have found a lot more joy from a new site I recently tried. 'Okcupid'
is free and has great matching questions and their matching algorithms have
done really well at putting my in touch with like minded people. At the very least the questions help you define yourself and have also helped me decide whats actually important to me in a mate. It's  not as buys as other sites, but I am looking for quality vs quantity.

I agree...carpenters are good with their hands! :)

 being an androsexual architect developer hiring lots of fit guys to work with :)

Excellent point about the profile writer talking about his requirements and dealbreakers but giving little or no information about why someone should want to message him in the first place.

I think the thing that cracked me up the most is that he does NOT want a woman with a master's degree. I'm wondering if that's because she might try to correct his many spelling and grammar issues, and that might make him feel inferior, instead of perhaps learning something and improving his written communication.

Good luck with continued online dating attempts! Several of my friends who have run the gamut of online dating have mentioned that meetup groups, organized online but taking place in realtime, have been their best bet for finding people to date via the internet. It's based around activities they like, there is a group dynamic, it gets them out doing things, and they can see potential dating partners interacting with other people.

Meetups are sooo great! Good point!

I used to frequent a blog that posted really horrible dating profiles that the author was sent, called "Why Women Hate Men". Some were far worse than that, but it's worth checking out for a laugh, even if it hasn't been updated in over a year.

I found his profile and had to post his pic:

That mug just screams, "Ride me for a vaginal orgasm!"

He's not fuckable based on his ugly face and the fact that he doesn't know when to use "their" and "there" and also "your" and "you're."  Maybe he needs to go to school and get a masters degree.  Bad grammar is a deal-breaker for me.

I started this year off with the idea of finding someone to date. Well, partly because of people like this guy, I lost interest rather quick. I know that there are some great guys out there but finding them is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It is a very time consuming process. And I'm tired. 
This guy is an absolute idiot. I was pretty pissed off by the comment about "ridiing" and "vaginal orgasms". Particularily, because most women can't have them. What an ass. I can't help but wonder about the type of woman who would date this jerk. She probably would end up faking all her orgasms. I suspect whatever self-regard she possessed would be totally obliterated by this jackass. 

Dating sites are yesterday's news.  Too many pitfalls.  They are an illusion.  A promise of a product that exists only in your mind.  That is what those entrepreneurs depend on.  As they say- "love is just a click away." It is a sucker's game and a dangerous one at that. They are selling you a dream package with the brass ring just a reach away and they have gotten rich off of those who believe it.  It is best to meet people in person like anywhere that is real. If it is too good to be true....

and I married a dyslexic who has a command of neither. But what my hubby has what this idiot does not is a great sense of humor, a willingness for the combo orgasm, and a personality that allows him enough friends of both sexes that if he ever needed to write an online dating profile, that someone would help him with it. This guy is an ass who is probably best friends with his dominate hand. I've decided to craft a bitchy response.

Dear Mr. Swarmy Spitlips,
Unless your dick vibrates in 5 speeds and comes with a clit attachment, okay, well even if you do have the most fabulous cybernetic vibrating hall of fame dick, I will refrain from jumping on and riding. You sir should lower the educational requirements of the women you wish to date because I'm pretty sure the differences between your/you're and there/their/they're are taught in grade school. Maybe you should limit your women to a seventh grade education.
In fact I usually get called back after sex, sometimes I even get marriage proposals and gifts, however the quality of my partner has a great deal to do with my "performance". You failed to mention whether or not women call YOU back after sex.
If you only want sex 3 times a week, I'm afraid I would have to find another man who can give me sex 3 times daily. Of course since I would only date you if I was in a coma (or got turned into a zombie-since you have no brain for me to eat), shit, I wouldn't date you then either.
Regards,
Heylin
P.S. -Your note makes me want to go to the adult toy store, you might want to check out the blowup dolls.

Finding someone to date is not about orgasms. The dodson and ross website is obsessed with the mechanics of sex at full bore.   No subtlety - no feel. An un-smooth ride, a rage of frustration, a road leading into an existing void.

but...the male featured focused on finding a woman who is able to have vaginal orgasms which is kind of a rarity. And since my friendships are platonic, my dating is not and part of sex is having orgasms. I'm also not sure about what kind of orgasms you are having, but mine tend to relieve frustration and we're all heading towards the void known as death. As for this website being obsessed with the mechanics of orgasm, thank God someone cares about female orgasm.

@ Soapberryusa, I wrote this because this guy is an ignorant ass. In what part of his profile rant was there "subtlety" or mention of emotions ???? All he did was mention his high sex drive and a laundry list of what he expects in his woman.None of which are realistic. Dodson and Ross is a sex information website.That is what these ladies and gentleman who write for the site do best.

But that kissy face photo really grosses me out and some of the guys I'm crushing on are on the rough looking/ugly side! Of course reading his profile thingee made him unattractive anyway but all the saliva practically dripping from his mouth, gross!

I know he was an ignorant ass.  Actually his rant was off the charts and not worth even a mention.  He is a troglodyte.  A testosteroid. Nothing he said made any sense.  He was chattering at a low level.  I know what Dodson and Ross do and why they do it.  I was just shuckin' and Jivin'. 

What difference does it make what kind of orgasms a woman may have as long as she is happy with whatever it is.  I like Casanova's philosophy of sexuality which is - seventy-five percent of the pleasure of sex for him was satisfying the woman.  Of course there is no way a woman would understand that since she is on the wrong end of that philosophy.

"Oh she may be weary
them young girls they do get wearied
wearing that same old shabby dress
but when she gets weary
you try a little tenderness"
                               Otis Redding

Sorry about you being a single mom with an autistic child and working and going to school.  I know that has to be very difficult.  Online dating would make it really difficult. Kudos to you for what that is worth.

@soapberryusa:  "There is no way woman would understand that since she is on the wrong end of the philosophy."

??  

I relate quite a bit to what you mentioned, that a significant portion of pleasure in sex is satisfying the woman. As a woman who loves to have sex with women, I am not excluded from understanding that philospphy.

;-)

A good friend of mine once told me that online dating is for efficient women and lazy men.  It's so true.  
After a couple of years of online dating I'm done.  The stalker I'm sure was the breaking point; after numerous phone calls to the police, a suicide threat, and having to avoid places because I knew he'd be there waiting for me, I decided it's just too much of a toss-up.  I'll wait to find some fabulous guy at one of the weird ass places I hang out in.  

The fact that some dude I may encounter on an online dating might start demanding what kind I have before we've even met is offensive.
BTW, some of us women enjoy pleasing our men too. Hubby really likes it when I cook for him which I understand is not sexually pleasing but if he was given the choice between a really good sandwich and a really good blowjob, he'd probably pick pleasing me during sex with the sandwich and a cool drink.

That sounds like a skit that George did on Seinfeld.

Now that is a cool idea! Never thought about it from that angle.

As a busy mom of 4 who doesn't do the bar thing I am happy to go online. You meet crazy people everywhere. Better than not at all... Sure it's not for everyone, but what is? For those judging it... whatever...judge away...as you usually do...

The most critical thing needed for dating strange people is a bacteria pathogen meter.  It would be somewhat like a Geiger counter.  You could point it at the person you may hook up with and check for anything untoward physically.  You could tell a lot about a person that way.  You could be the judge on how much bacteria that you were willing to tolerate.  A disease meter might be a little more difficult.  There are minefields of diseases.  Condoms and dental dams or plastic wrap will not do. The entire issue is so distressing. Pristine sexual encounters should be the gold standard. Saran wrap is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard of for oral sex

dating =fucking
soapy?
Glad you care to point out some health concerns!
sorry your name and that post are too funny