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The Connection Between Orgasm & Body Image

Fri, 10/22/2010 - 12:48
Submitted by LilithLand

My response to Princess's post on Desire & Arousal:

Most research I have read seems to find that women have a spit between subjective (mental) arousal and physiological arousal. Women can show all the physiological measures of arousal and say that they don't feel turned on at all.

One reason I think might play into this is the issue of distraction. From what I have read women have far more problems with maintaining focus during sex. A lot of it is connected with body image. Some women get so distracted by how they look that they can't focus on their feelings.

Also, in order to get aroused a woman must go within and focus on her own sensations. Unfortunately, the female gender role is all about pleasing others. It's hard to focus on your own needs when you feel you are supposed to be pleasing a partner.

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every single word of this is

Sun, 11/14/2010 - 22:49
thewidgit (not verified)

every single word of this is so amazing true!

I need help

Tue, 11/23/2010 - 04:59
Christina2488 (not verified)

Hi I am 22 and my boyfriend is 31, and we have been together for about a year and a half. When we first got together we would have sex at least everyday, then I started to gain waight and put on about 30lbs, now I feel like I have to beg him to touch me. For about 3 months now I havent been able to orgasm, and I know he feels like he is doing something wrong but its me. What do I need to do? Please help Im worried if this continues we wont have a sex life at all.  

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