Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I saw a video not long ago of a young English woman with a perfectly beautiful vulva, who nevertheless felt intensely that something was wrong with her genitals. She underwent a labiaplasty, documented in the video. I was horrified that she felt the need to do such a thing, but I assumed her case was an isolated one. Sadly, it seems not. The notion that something could be "wrong" with healthy genitals could only have been fomented in a culture such as ours. A culture that simultaneously bombards us with false, impossible ideals of beauty---AND has believed for two thousand years that sex and the human body are shameful and must be hidden away. It's time to strike a blow for sex-positive body acceptance. No more shame!

A logo based on a vulva would be a good idea. One that shows the clit, urethra, vagina and innner and outer labia. You can't ban letter heads or fly posters or placards. Or ban the logo from publicity like ads and billboards without the cause getting even more publicity. 

we do it subtley with our double hearts.  Betty drew it - there's a circle for the clit and the inner and outer heart are the inner and outer labia

Oooh I forgot about them! :) They're perfect. The right hand one is more expressive. Doing a single heart vulva that works on it's own that can be placed on T-shirts and letterheads and stencil sprayed and tattooed and even made into a smiley would be fab.  The heart Vulva, a nice simple image that says it all. It does!!! :)

...I love that! It's like your vulva Carlin that opens into a heart shape. I am in the process of making my stencil today and I'm designing my t-shirt too. I'm going to grafitti the highschools all over Melbourne. Gorilla anatomy education!

Why do we always have to push these things so hard? Why is it not okay to simply enjoy things for yourself? Why does the ignorance of others make us so upset? if they aren't ready then that's up to them. I think it is wiser to practice acceptance as that is ultimately what we are all asking for. You can't smarten stupid people up in this manner... they have to come to it themselves.

Because we;re surrounded by negative notions that Vulvas are gross and dirty and useen and emit a blue fluid every month. And when seen in mainstream porn are highly selective of one kind of beautiful which distorts the general notion of what a vulva is and how diverse the beauty is. So if people are ready for all that starting from the age of 0, I think they're ready for some positive imagery and notions of clit awarenes to grow up with and fill their subconscious. No problems for me with penis awareness, it's right in front of my face when I look down. and I get a pat on the back when I use it sexually. So what's wrong with giving people a pat on the back and kudos for using their clit sexually. 
People confuse naivety and ignorace with the beauty of innocence. Innocence doesn't mean ignorant it means the opposite to guilty, it means well intensioned, it means goodwill and no matter how much you know you can be beautifully innocent and open hearted. In fact being like that is easier the less ignorant we are. Hopw does BDSM look from a position of ignorance. Like any jury how can we make any judgement to be compasionate if we don't know some facts about a person or a situation, so  how can we expect young people to be sexually compassionate from a poisition of ignorance and  for those who don't fit any model of sexuality they're presented with around them, both ignorence and fear. 

So many women feel so much shame about the powerhouse of her body. I look at my vulva nearly everyday. I do an all over body check after my shower to make sure everything looks reasonably healthy. I don't think it's beautiful, but I think it's normal and would never consider labiaplasty for my large inner labia. I also like the way my inner labia change color based on level of excitement, time of the month, etc. I never cease to be amazed at how powerful my tiny clit is at giving pleasure, how my labia aid in my pursuit of orgasms, and how my vagina has given birth to 8 pound babies but can still clamp down quite nicely on my husband's penis (and my finger). Oh, and I love the double heart logo.

Regarding the website's stylised heart vulva logo, I've often thought it'd be lovely as a pendant on a chain.

Was this ever done in the past? I seem to think in the back of my mind that when I first discovered this site some years ago there was something about it. Or have I completely imagined it?

It was never a pendant but that is a great idea.  I don't know much about jewelry but I do live in nyc - I can see one in gold, silver, pave diamonds, semi-precious gem stones....

The logo would make a great tattoo. Just not sure where it should go.

thank you so much for posting this! i spent my entire adolescence thinking there was something terribly wrong with my body and it wasn't until very recently that i realized that i was perfectly normal.  this kind of photoshoping is incredibly damaging to young girls because there are no other alternative images out there.  there is an entire generation growing up thinking that these images are the only norm. keep up the wonderful education! there's such a need for the work you're doing. 

Firstly...@Ravi acceptance of what? Are you suggesting that we should just accept the sex negative status quo and not provide a sex positive cultural alternative for people to choose between? That seems a little more like apathy to me than acceptance. We need to push because the negative (cunt hating) imagery floods our visual culture. There needs to be some balance and as cunt loving positive imagery is censored we need to find means to circumvent that blockade. If that kind of enthusiasm embarrases you, you need not join in but I can't see what grounds you actually have to criticise it as a lack of acceptance. Creating space for alternate views does not imply a lack of acceptance just a a proactive mover towards creating visible positive alternatives to shame and mutilation. 

A member on my website forum wrote when asked if she had suffered cunt shame that until we can talk about cunts just as e would our mouth, or our nose or any other body part then we are all suffering cunt shame. I have to say it's true and in that sense I have less cunt shame than most but still more than I realised. So yeah, cunt pendants and tattoos are great, photos in ladies room toiletes too.