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Your essay is lost on me. You go from only explaining just a few short sentences about how you have this once in a lifetime encounter, describe it in generalities instead of actually telling us what happened or even why it was so special to you... to your theory about how sexual communication is similar to that of a neurological study that only studies face-to-face verbal communication... and furthermore there is still no evidence as to why this occurs, or why people "click". The study only shows what happens when people are communicating "On the same wavelength."

Exactly how do you see this neurological study relative to the type of sexual communication you describe? Does it involve the same parts of the brain? Also, would non-verbal actions like deep breathing and movement show the same brain activity as the neurological study?

"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde

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About ten years ago I was in a weekend session which started about 7:00PM on Friday and lasted until about 3:00PM Sunday. As one part of the relaxation tecniques we were to stand as close to each other as possible without actually touching, and stare into each others eyes. As time went on our breathing became the same as well as much slower. We stood there about half an hour and felt much calmer and relaxed. My partner for that experience was a lady about 20 years younget than I, ever since then whenever we meet after an initial hug we resume the position and the results are the same but we talk to each other as we stand there. We see each other a couple times a year and always with the same results. This lady and I have a special bond and under other circomstances something much deeper might develop.

I'm with Christina on this one.

What exactly was the experience that you are referring to in the title? Maybe if you went into more detail about the "bliss zone"... I would like to read more information, but you'll have to explain it to your audience like we weren't with you and your lover... because we weren't. On the bright side the title is very drawing.

~Palesa

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Hey Christina,

I understand your point, and thank you for the provocative questions.  My intention was to express my excitement that there is evidence that we have a neurological basis for deep conversation and falling into sync with another person. There is something real that is happening in the brain. Mirror neurons help explain this, and I have blogged about this before on D and R - but that is only part of the story.

Sexual communication is prime territory for further neurological exploration that involves the feeling of loosing oneself in a bliss state of no time/no space/ infinite space kind of feeling.

Personally, I have had several incredible transcendental sexual experiences where this "magical' quality occurs over the course of my life. Tantra makes it's living in attempting to "teach" of these realms - but is filled with so much myth, it can be very confusing for people.

My point is I'm excited that science is studying the phenomenon, and at some point, when our cultural fog of sexual fear and ignorance clears, we will put sexuality, and sexual communion under the scientific lens too - and we will absolutely have similar findings.

This idea is very exciting to me, since I love learning more about communication on the deepest levels, and sexual communication is very much apart of that.

Deep, non linguistic, non temporal parts of the brain are activated when we move into altered states of consciousness. These are activated by repetitive motions, circular breathing, single pointed focus, etc.  - standard "spiritual" techniques.

Additionally, we naturally fall in and out of trance states all day long.

Consciously exploring this with another person is where cool shit happens.

My idea is that with some very simple - non mystical techniques - you can arrive at sublime states of consciousness where you have the feeling that you are totally one - totally in sync with another person, beyond time, beyond space, and these experiences can literally get wired into the brain.

Unfortunately, science is often afraid of the realms of sexuality - because the studies run the risk of loosing credibility - or worse yet - funding.

I'm extrapolating and jumping ahead to a time in science where studying sex will give us an all access pass to all kinds of incredible information about our ancient past and our emerging future.

Sometime I try to fit way too much into a very small package of a blog.

I will share with you in an essay down the road what it was about that first experience that was so powerful - and explain it in detail. Perhaps I will re-use the current title for that blog...

Thanks for the great questions... hopefully this clarifies a bit!?!   :)

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Sounds like you had a tantric experience!  Cool.  Not many people in our culture are patient enough and not so intent on immediate gratification to experience such a profound and HOT connection. 

Thanks for sharing.

peace!