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In a recent article published in the journal Psychological Science, researchers discovered that how we see the world depends on what we want from the world.

The study points to the underlying evolutionary trait that we see desirable objects as being physically closer than less desirable objects. The data also suggests that differences in our physical actions are accentuated depending on how badly we want something.

For example, in one test, participants were asked to guess how far away they were from a water bottle. Thirsty people guessed the water bottle was closer to them than non-thirsty people.

The water bottle appeared closer to participants who really wanted water.

This study relates to sexual choice. If we really desire to meet somebody who we are physically attracted to, we need an extra impulse that forces us to take action and "go for it."

Seeing a desired potential sex partner as being closer might just be exactly what we need to give us the extra spark to spring into action.

The opposite is also true. Those of us that want something too badly - can get fixated because what we want seems closer and bigger in our awareness than it really is. This can cause us to be perceived as being too needy by the person who finds themselves as the object of our desire.

It's also possible that those of us who have a hard time meeting other people may not believe that the object they desire is attainable, and therefore don't even try.

The key insight is understanding that the physical world is not directly perceived, but rather is more of a composite of reality and feelings commingling inside of our brain and body.