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Sex is spirituality, and spirituality is sex. It's the same thing. Even Buddha figured that out. I feel sad when my pervy friends feel as if they are less "spiritual" because they lead alternative, sexually expressive lifestyles. Apparently, it's not spiritual to be a slut. Tiger should know; that's what he's been wrestling with deep in his psyche since he became a superstar. His website comments show he feels he's been off the "one true path."

I have a friend who insists that deep inside she's an evil whore - because she feels pulled to have hot, juicy, powerful, emotional sex with a married guy she's known for years and has a ton of chemistry with.

Behind both of these stories is the canonized belief that somehow, at it's core, sex is bad, wrong, animal.

Sadly, there are few positive role models for alternative sexual pairings in the moral codes of our culture. Correction. There is only one right, god intended pairing in the moral code: the ritual pairing of hetero man with the hetero woman -- till death do they part. (it seems to me that the 'till death do we part' was intended as the health care solution for ancient people, but I digress).

Few actually sustain the idealized pairing, because it's a nearly impossible to attain. It's an archaic idea that we are forced to follow because our culture believes in it so strongly.

It doesn't work - but we continue to believe. Why let pesky facts get in the way of reality?

I invite you to consider something for a moment. Suppose we say, just for a minute, that sex is good, that sex is spirituality, and that expressions of sexuality are spiritual. How would that instantly change the feelings we have for our bodies, our sexual histories, our desires?

The entire pallor of the Tiger Woods scandal would instantly change. We'd be celebrating instead of obsessing. We have to acknowledge that we like sex - and that's OK.

Until there is a fundamental shift in our reality about sex - including education, communication, and explorations of the boundaries of pleasure - there will always be sex scandals featuring apologetic public figures.

They say thing come in threes. I wonder who's next.