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I read an article posted on www.yourtango.com on tips for women to get more compliments from their men. What I teach men in my sex life coaching work is how to develop awareness and appreciation for detail. Our culture doesn't teach straight men to enjoy details. Here are 3 tips for how I learned to enjoy the small facets of a woman's beauty and allure:

1. Understand -why- something is beautiful.
My dad was a sports car aficionado while I was growing up. Sometimes he'd enter his sports car into an auto show or we'd go to auto shows together as spectators. He would ask me why I liked a particular sports car that I favored. He asked me what details lead me to my conclusion. At first I said I don't know, it's just cool. Then he told me what he saw in the design. The way the headlights looked, the curves in the body, why he liked a particular red paint job more than another. He told me it isn't enough to love a sports car. You have to be aquainted with why you love to look at it. The aesthetics, he said.

I applied the same principle to other objects of beauty until one day I started to look at women and girls my own age differently. I have flashbacks of seeing sunlight glinting off of a brunette's hair and creating subtle red sparkles. Noticing that drew me in even more into the wow! of that woman's beauty.

2. The details of what she's wearing.
To find things to compliment her on, look for the details that when you see them, you can feel it in your core. Like how her hoop earrings accentuate and echo her bustline. Don't mention the bustline effects, just the earrings. That's when you're getting to know each other. Once you're an item, women open the doors to the hottest of compliments because she feels sexually safe with you. What I like to do is tell my partner Kira how hot she looks and why, then how it makes me want to do all kinds of amazing things to her. That's great to hear from long term partners because women will change from, "Does he want me?" to "Does he still want me?"

3. The advantages of developed aethetics.
Probably the best thing about seeing the details of a woman's beauty and allure is youdiscover and savor so many things about her. It helps stave off the law of diminishing returns. It also gives you more things to catch your eye and focus on while having sex with her. You can integrate aesthetic points into sex. Have her keep those glasses on that she looks hot in during sex. The gold dangle earrings that make her blond hair look even more golden. Super-sparkly costume jewelry chokers, matching earrings, a black bow tying her long hair back, and nothing else while she cowgirl's you is an amazing sight, which makes your orgasms bigger.
Don't stop looking at her during your orgasm. Women often have hot facial expressions when they know you're coming up inside them. Expressions you never see except in that moment. So, start noting the breathtaking details in all things and especially in your beloved.

Oh, and ladies? Try doing everything I said for your man too. We often hear how nice we look, but it's very nice to hear what you can't wait to do to us when you get back to a bedroom.

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