www.yourtango.com, a site with life change experts in all kinds of catagories. I'm one of the sex life coaches there. The tips I offered are: #6, #7, #11, and #12. My ideas were edited a little, but retain the core of what I wanted to say in each.
Now that we're on the topic of body image and weight loss....
I'll give a few more tips that I give clients and gave myself:
1. If you're exercising to sculpt a sexier look for your body type, know your metabolism. Talk to a trainer in your gym about how your metabolism has an effect on your weight gain and loss in concert with the foods you are eating. You can't exercise and then reward yourself with ice cream afterward (assuming you already had your post-workout protein shake) unless your metabolism is high. Even then, I don't recommend it. Replace the ice cream with a strawberry protein shake with fresh strawberries from your local farmers' market. If you're really beat, add some banana and a cup of rolled oats organic oatmeal. One thing they deleted from my original tip was a suggestion to start working out your glutes. The bum is a turn on for both genders, regardless of sexual orientation. It's also a muscle group that ou see development in sooner than later because of the group's size. Even if you have a little fat on your bum, the muscle will grow underneath and make it sexier looking and feeling. The exercise will help burn away the fat too. Find the machine at the gym that does glutes. Plus, for men, glutes along with stomach muscles power your thrusting during intercourse in several favored positions.
2. When I decided to get off sweets about 5 years back, I replaced cookies, ice cream, or pie every night (one of those three) with raw honey and cinnamon toast. Then I dropped that off to just a teaspoon of honey when I wanted something sweet. Eventually, when I went back to a slice of pie and vanilla ice cream for old times sake, the sugar high and drop was more dramatic than I'd ever felt it. My body had returned to a state with less sugar. White sugary sources always made me feel bad afterward. Sugar ages you too. That made it easier for me to skip them for something better for my body, like roasted sweet potato slices dipped in olive oil and cinnamon. It answers the sweet need and your body's happy with what you're putting into it. Drink 64 oz of water a day too. That's something I'm still working on. Keep water next to you while you work because like me, I'll sucked in and not refill the glass. Whenever you get up from the desk to use the restroom, get more water.
3. You've seen it on the makeover shows and I agree with it. If you dont have the body you want yet, dress to make what you have look great. Go to the gym at least twice a week and include weight training into your workouts. Lower body and core for women, all three zones for men. If you want to have sex with people with a hot/attractive body, you have to assume that they want the same thing. That's something that eluded me back when I was a teen. Duh, right? People don't think about this until somebody tells them way too often. Men especially.
4. Like I've shown in previous blog posts, I'll say it again, there isn't just one definition of physical erotic. You may have your preferences, but hot can be different from different body types. Don't sell yourself too short in comparison to the ideal. I did that a long time and it's way more self-infliction than necessary. However, if you want to be closer to the sexy man/woman ideal, you have to work for it and commit to it. We all have to make that decision: one road or the other.
5. Combine your cardio with something you like doing. Like sex! Have some sex where you are breathing heavy becase it's hot and you need all the oxygen you can get to keep pumping or riding your partner. Stay laser focused on them too. It's a sexy display for anyone to see and it's a workout you don't need a gym for. Guys, pump faster during intercourse or if it's appreciated, with a dildo or whatever is desired inside your partner. Same goes for women.
For those new to my blog, I write on my and others' sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible in sexual pleasure. It so often lights a desire to "Want to do that. Feel that." They want to learn how to have better sex through developing their sexual sophistication maybe for the first time in their lives. I also intend to present to my readers the reality of great sex from basic to advanced to inspire them as it will. Finally, ever wonder how good the sex that your sex therapist is having in their own sex life? I have. I'm not a sex educator, nor a sex therapist. I don't do sex therapy. I'm a sex life coach. I guide, I teach, and I do.
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