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A Married Couple's Wonderful Success Story After Sex Life Coaching

Tue, 06/07/2011 - 08:50
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

As I indicated in my previous blog post, a past married couple, who were sex life coaching clients of mine last winter, told me all about how their relationship of just over twenty years was revitalized (and getting better) due in large part to the talk-teach coaching sessions the wife, Nancy (name changed), had with me.

I was sitting one day going over past client contact info, then contacting some of them, seeing how they were doing. I like to keep in touch here and there to see how my sex life coaching helps or sustains their happiness over time. I texted her after being out of contact since January or February and she wrote back with:

"We're doing great!"

I replied: "Do tell!"

Nancy: "He's totally in love with me."

Eric: "Wow! Email me all about it and how it happened, girl!"

Nancy: "When I get back from our trip. Today is our 23rd year anniversary, by the way."

Eric: "Happy anniversary, you two! What a way to have it!"

A few days later I text back in my excitement because by the time Nancy finished her sessions, I wasn't sure if things were going to improve much for her and Julio. He had feelings of no more attraction to her, no willingness to stay with her while she did selfloving after he had his orgasm either. However, she had made her missteps and mistreatments of him too over the years. I gave them my method for communication about sexual things that I felt suited them best, some ideas to work into the bedroom for more interesting nights, and also to rid both of them of the resentments they had. Nancy had only two sessions with me though, and I didn't see much improvement on Julio's side. However, she stuck to my advice plus a bit of new perspective from cognitive therapy models to keep her mind from careening over into triggered resentments born of the past.

Eric: "So! Tell me all about it! You back home now?"

Nancy: "We get back Fri. The secret is love, but both people must have the ability and willingness to be nourishing to each other. Our sex is better than ever."

Eric: Can we do a phone convo on Fri or later in the week? I'd love to hear more."

Nancy: We can talk on Saturday. You were right about the resentments and how to deal with them."

I text on Sat and ask for when she's available for our talk.

Nancy: "Between 1 and 4 EST, and Julio (name changed) will be working from home so maybe he'd like to talk to you also."

Eric: "Okay, great! Let's do 1:30pm my time."

Nancy agreed. The convo day came and I listened as Nancy described how, in a nutshell, my coaching on how to help shift a sexually reluctant partner into an exciting one worked for them. She did her part, but the key to it was persistence with the method. Not giving up and not expecting it to happen overnight. Every time Julio balked, she took things sweetly and with warmth. She pushed frustration out of her head and kept it coming. That was the cognitive behavior part of it. Thankfully, Julio was down deep, a man who could be transitioned away from withholding and anger.

Julio started staying with her while she selfloved some more after he'd finished his sexual romp with her, which is a form of intimacy deeper for most of us than a peck on the cheek and a little snuggling. Now, he comes up behind her and takes her bum or breasts in his hands from behind, then, whispers hot and sweet things about what he wants to do to her later. He'd never done that in all the years of their marriage. It also helped that I gave them more things to do with sexytime than they'd had before or given them new ways to look at them that are more exciting. Nancy said that gradually over months after their completion of our sex life coaching sessions, they shifted into a couple who at first wanted and then couldn't wait to do erotic or affectionate things for each other. Love-feelings blossomed again and in ways they'd never had in the very beginning.

Now... I can't wait to start a new package of sex life coaching sessions with them at their new place in their marriage.

-Fin

For those new to my blog, I write on my and others' sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible in sexual pleasure. It so often lights a desire to "Want to do that. Feel that." They want to learn how to have better sex through developing their sexual sophistication maybe for the first time in their lives. I also intend to present to my readers the reality of great sex from basic to advanced to inspire them as it will. Finally, ever wonder how good the sex that your sex therapist is having in their own sex life? I have. I'm not a sex educator, nor a sex therapist. I don't do sex therapy. I'm a sex life coach. I guide, I teach, and I do.
   

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Yes it's true!

Wed, 06/08/2011 - 09:28
"Nancy" (not verified)

I know this is hard to believe, but that is exactly how it happened.  I'd had a few phone sessions with Eric, without my husband knowing.  The last time was in January I think.  It was just a coincidence that he happened to check in with me via texting on the day of our 23rd anniversary.
What helped the most was how Eric taught me how to communicate what I needed.  That was magic!  Once my husband loved me again, he wanted to please me.    Now he's gone from wanting sex with me every 3 days to almost every day, and he is in his 50's.  He can't keep his hands off me.  
The next sessions will include my husband.  I really want to have him do the "hot talk" that Eric teaches.   I think I could be halfway to climax just with the right talk.  It's all mental for me.  And then I want to try what I read in the other blog, about the two dicks, one in my mouth and the other in my pussy.  I told my husband about it this morning, and he got so turned on he had to get in a quickie before work.  I think the idea of teasing him is so hot - he'd use the dildo on me, wanting his dick in me instead, but he can't because it's in my mouth.  
Enjoy your day everyone!  
P.S.  I never met Eric.  I'm just posting this because he helped me and I am so grateful!!

"Nancy"

Thank you, Nancy!

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Wed, 06/08/2011 - 10:28
Eric Amaranth

Thank you so much for this reply to my post, Nancy!

This is such a different level of sexual excitement and sophistication than the one you came to me with. I want to say here how some new readers, or couples approaching the idea of investing in their sex life, may view the section Nancy wrote on, "two dicks, one in my mouth and the other in my pussy," plus the blog I wrote on that sex dish that Nancy read as very intimidating or too carnal for them. That it inspires images of poorly made porn.

I see how someone could feel this way, so I'd like to give some free sex life coaching advice that may help view it differently and incorporate sex dishes like this into your sex life. There are a lot of reasons why this works and why it's impressive when a man can create it. It's a sex dish that's primarily for the woman's enjoyment, first of all. He moves in her mouth, or not, in a way that doesn't make her choke (if that's what she prefers... I have been with one partner in the past for whom choking on penis was erotic for her) plus, Nancy left out the part where the woman is massaging or vibrating her clitoris while the man runs the dildo between her thighs and his own in her mouth.

It creates a strong simulation of being with two men (or a fantasy of two of your husband for all of those of you who only want to think of your partner) and filled with penis. It does a lot of possible other things too. The woman enjoying being overwhealmed by male, but in a good way by good men she strongly desires. Plus, she gets to have an easy orgasm from all the hot mental action, vaginal, and clitoral; and for some women, oral too. Yes, there are some people who do get turned on by giving head of one variety or another... or in this case, receiving head.

That's an important distinction to make. Giving head for another's pleasure, which is how we almost always see it and consider it, but there's also the man feeding the woman his cock for her pleasure to do with as she pleases and not so much having the intention to make him orgasm unless she wants that at some point too.

Further, one of the most powerful forms of intimacy is when you do something this intense, going inside her body in several forms simultaneously, is a magnification of similar feelings when we french kiss. Most of us have a thing for getting inside of someone's body as a primal form of deeper intimacy and closeness with that person based on feelings and desires of love and or erotic desire.

When a sex dish like this unfolds seamlessly with some practice and guidance, it leaves most couples snuggling at the end sharing feelings of gratitude that they can do something that intimate and bombastic with someone, plus it feels incredible. My partner Kira and I are now working on ways I can have an orgasm along with, before, or after she has hers when we do this sex dish.

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