Kim Kardashian Has Strong Sex Skills

Thu, 12/02/2010 - 08:33
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I've been a fan of Kim Kardashian's beauty and body from the moment I saw it. Her outward personality as well. Yes, I got a copy of her sex tape when it came out via Vivid. Her incredible naked body being sexual and the opportunity to see what Kim's perfect face looks like turned on and then way on, but also her skills.

Her oral sex skills shined. Seamlessly coordinated, multi-faceted technique. When Ray J. came, she was using a short, back and forth plus hand-rotating stroke with her hand plus her mouth glued right to the top of her hand. Her lips stroking over the coronal ridge with every head pump. I teach this style to clients and lovers; use hand and mouth together, like the treble and the bass. Her double-fisted rotating stroke was excellent too.

The short stroke is key because it concentrates all the stimulation on the head of the penis. When it's time for most men to come, this is a consistent winner. Miss Kardashian, I'm impressed, I must say. You don't learn how to do that unless you care enough to optimize your partner's pleasure-- and have the desire as well. There is more to learn, including how save energy so you can do it longer, then adding more simultaneous actions. Also, the superhottie reached down while Ray J was pumping her, after moistening her fingertips with some saliva, and rubbed her clitoris. One of the hottest parts of the video. It was like she was a long-time Betty Dodson fan! I'll say to Ray J, your intercourse technique was great too. The tiny details I noticed and your smooth rhythm were well done. Plus, he doesn't have a problem when his woman rubs her clit while he delivers.

Technique matters in great sex. A lot. I'll use this opportunity to talk about where people say developing physical technique isn't important in sex, or, the mind is the biggest sex organ. They're wrong. At best, half wrong. What they teach is usually good too, except I tell people to use technique and much of what they're advocating simultaneously. Have both or savor them together or seperately, but have them all at your command. Have warm, sweet patience with your partner while she or he is developing and practicing. Talk about it at some point after with a sweet tone to your voice, telling them what was good, even the smallest things, but how it could be better too. You must mention those things or you're not building together. You're not growing.

No more of this one or the other stuff. Technique, connection, presence, flow, psychological erotic-- all of it. Work on it all.  That's what I do. I promise you, when practiced the right way, building better sex it's the hottest practice in the world and an essential part of sophisticated, gourmet, high-end sex.

I'll tell you this, there can be such a tiny difference in technique that can make the difference between, "It's good, but not going to come from it." to slapping the bed because they're on the one way Big-Oh train and thanking whatever god(s) they worship that you're in their life. I wish this little blog will finally put this rampant misconception to rest. That one and the one that says, "Orgasm isn't important." It is. Equally important with all the other parts of sex. There's no hierarchy with me one way or the other.

It's also beautiful to watch! The fluid, erotic elegance of mastered technique. It's one thing men (and women) don't mention very often that watching someone do amazingly pleasurable technique adds psychologically to the erotic of the, "Oh my god, what are you DOING to me?!" I've been to the proverbial promised land and I can say that I've noticed we value mastery of skills in every other endevor. As a professional in a field in its infancy, I assure you, sex lives need this to grow and develop via skills like everything else. Anyone else who says otherwise has not seen what I've seen, done what I've done, or felt what I've felt and made others feel.

I was giving one of my Wine and Chocolate Salons for Women a little while back and I quickly showed, in midair like air guitar and not on a person; both of my hands as if they were driving a woman's sex crazy: one hand's thumb swirling quickly over her clitoris while the index and middle finger held her clitoral hood back while the other pumped two fingers on the imaginary g-spot. One of the participants said excitedly a few minutes later,

"Oh my god. Did you see what his thumb was doing? How does he make it move like that?!"

I could hear the recognition of hot sex in her voice just from seeing it air guitared. This also reminds me very much of making a complex dish or dessert for your partner. It's amazing, they love it, they let you know it, and you worked hard on it. It took you time to hone it, then add to it, then hone some more. I often feel like what a teacher at a culinary academy must feel like with their students.

Loving cooking is the very same thing as the act of loving sex, in my world; not just loving the resulting pleasures. Loving sex also means you love the making of sex. The same as what a chef means when she says she loves cooking. She loves the art, the science, and the pursuit of excellence in her dishes and designing new ones. My lovers and clients learn how to bring that mentality to the bedroom where it deserves to be as well as the kitchen. I want people to have the possibility in life where they can create for themselves a new definition of adulthood that goes beyond paying taxes and turning 21. One where they truly grow up and mature into beings who value pursuits of sophisticated sex with their partner(s) because that's part of what adulthood truly means.

I see where Kim isn't happy about how that sex tape got out. That may be true, but this is a great example that we as adults have to do more to stand up for our sex lives. To show we value them. Kim's skills are as far as I'm concerned, living sensual art made art certainly so by the public unveiling. If you don't agree that they're art, then you've obviously never felt skills like Kim's.


For those new to my blog, I write on my and others' sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible. It so often lights a desire to "Want to do that. Feel that." A want to learn how to have better sex through sex advice and sex education, maybe for the first time in their lives. I also intend to present to my readers the reality of great sex from basic to advanced. Finally, ever wonder how good the sex that your sex therapist or sex educator is having in their sex life really is? I have. I'm not a sex therapist, I don't do sex therapy. I'm a sex life coach. I teach and I do.

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I've also seen that sex tape

Fri, 12/03/2010 - 12:07
Minxy (not verified)

I've also seen that sex tape and-if we may put Kardashian's technique to one side for a minute-I've seen low budget porn with women looking more enthusiastic and less coerced in it. Honestly, she is giving a pretty poor performance, trying to the horny sex kitten and coming off as someone I feel sorry for. Kim Kardashian: beautiful, rich and STILL has to fake it for an egomaniac boyfriend.

Good blow jobs

Mon, 12/06/2010 - 14:43
sdrunner (not verified)

I got a subscription to Vivid just to see her technique.  I will try that next time!  Too bad for her, she fakes her orgasms.  I'm a heterosexual woman, but I do get turned on watching women have real orgasms, and you can get free previews on, click on the Orgasm link.  It is hot!!
May I also add I tried a sex coaching session with Eric for problem I had with my partner, and I have seen a huge improvement in just one session.  The ideas he gave me, I have implemented.  Yes, it does require being willing to try some new things.  One of the techniques he gave me, probably the most important one, is how to talk to my partner, something totally unexpected from a sex coach.  I thought it was all technique.  I can't wait what more I will learn, hmmmm...

How to talk to your partner and grats on the huge improvement!

Eric Amaranth's picture
Wed, 12/08/2010 - 21:19

Wow! I've never gotten a testimonial via a blog comment, but it like it! Unexpected!
I talk about how to talk to your partner during sex because subtle communication styles and voice tones often make a big difference in how people hear you during feedback on tricky subjects like better sex. Thank you for the compliment! :)


Tue, 12/21/2010 - 15:54
Boga (not verified)

 Fake implanted body, fake orgasms... It's so easy to trick guys. Even the most experienced among them.

I spoke about

Eric Amaranth's picture
Sun, 12/26/2010 - 20:01

You may want to read more carefully next time, Boga. I commented on Kim's sex skills, not whether or not she's faking. She may be. The video didn't allow me to see her when she did it, just heard it. I do know she rubbed her clitoris while taking big penis, which does bode well for that and I like seeing a woman who understands that in action, and taking action.

I'll also say I'm not against implants when they look as good as Kim's and I thought they were real anyway. Enhanced, real... they both have their hot qualities.

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