Why Are Female Sex Enhancers Banned From T.V.?

Thu, 11/11/2010 - 16:39
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here is a timely article from www.lemondrop.com on how the people marketting the product Zestra, a clitoral arousal "cream" mixed into a water-based lube delivery method, have been systematically denied ad space on almost all mediums.

I remember when Betty was sent some Zestra to try out. Maybe it works, but Betty and I were a bit skeptical when the directions on the product tells the woman-user to massage Zestra into her clitoris for, if memory serves, 15 minutes. Last I checked, rubbing your clitoris with a slippery, wet, waterbased-lubricant for fifteen minutes straight would have a high probablity of genitally arousing the majority of women. Who knows, maybe the other ingredients are useful too for keeping her clitoral erection up and sustained, much like the effects that viagra creates. One slight thing to consider: will her clitoris receive adequate stimulation during sex?

Whether it's a valid product due to functionality or method of use isn't the point of me bringing this up. My point is to highlight an instance of direct censorship of things and topics pertaining to creating authentic female arousal and help facilitate orgasm. My path is a difficult one for this reason, among many others. You can talk about male enhancement all day long-- not female. I do think this is a historic moment, if you will. The realities of female sexual pleasure and orgasm are slowly gathering steam, and did so even slower for the past ten years I've been in this field. It's a force that won't stay behind the scenes especially as women demand  great sex lives the same as men.

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Eric my recollection was the

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 11/11/2010 - 17:32

Eric my recollection was the directions said to rub the cream in four to five minutes. Either way, five minutes of consentrated clit stim will often give a woman sexual interest. The cream itself was nothing to write home about. I'm glad you pointed out the glaring double standard in sexual advertising. I think a lot of men are scared of sexually liberated women. Our sexual capacity is far beyond the average man's capability. But as you and I know, that's where sex toys come in.

I find it absolutely irksome...

ChrisOnline's picture
Thu, 11/11/2010 - 18:50

...this double standard.  And really, as Carlin pointed out today in her blog highlighting the prudish censorship of that beautifully sensual nude, it goes beyond just censorship. Instead of naturally sensual and powerful images of women in the media, we are bombarded with images of tacky and trashy women as example of female sexuality. 

We are not allowed to see real female sensuality, and heaven forbid marketers sell any product that may enhance this outlawed female power. If we become powerful sexual beings, we may just drag men down into the pits of our whoreish hell.

That said, this clit cream seems like one more product we don't need. I would however, like to see the commercial that they come up with. It would be even funnier than the ads for the ED meds.


Thu, 11/11/2010 - 20:33
LilithLand (not verified)

I am a little curious about why Zestra would not be marketed. I believe that KY arousal fluid is marketed on TV. I don't watch very much TV, but if memory serves, there is a comercial going around about KY making a woman's "big moment" bigger. Of course, God forbid, we say the word "orgasm" on TV. But that's another story. I tried Zestra. It actually has a warming effect that I really liked. I also liked the smell, which I hear a lot of people complain about. I don't really remember it doing much for my arousal - at least any more than usual though.

OK, there may be double

Miss Moonlight's picture
Thu, 11/11/2010 - 23:35

OK, there may be double standards here and I am usually one of the first to bang on about double standards, but if it doesn't work that is in itself good reason not to advertise it.

Great observation about censorship!

Fri, 11/12/2010 - 09:27

I really enjoyed this, Eric.
As for Zestra, I gave some to a friend recently.  She said she wasn't a huge fan. 

This pisses me off

vii's picture
Sun, 11/14/2010 - 15:46

Needless to say our clits are still perceived as horribly offensive by the majority while the penis is worshiped.. (or possibly the man behind the curtain still doesn't want to promote female masterbation in fear of losing control) I think the latter is more likely.

the conservative mind and female sexual satisfaction

Eric Amaranth's picture
Tue, 11/16/2010 - 14:04

Two big reasons why traditional culture does not
value, or attacks, female sexual satisfaction is that if she enjoys sex,
then she'll get pregnant with illegitimate children or be an
irresponsible mother or with her duties to the household.

I'm sure both of those things happened and at multiple times in human
history. However, the majority of women would not do those things and
the conservative mind has a nasty habit of throwing the baby out with
the bath water (no pun intended) when any resulting problem, with
anything, comes up.

are not just positions based on religious dogma. They are based in
practical, everyday life issues. I will give them that. Conservative
problem solving will find a valid problem and then create a solution
that is most often all-encompassing in its overall restrictionary effect
on a situation. There are times where a broad application of
restriction is necessary. Like child or spouse abuse, for example.
However, not everything is that clear cut in life.

whoreish hell

Eric Amaranth's picture
Tue, 11/16/2010 - 14:08

I tend to address my issues with conservative thought apart from conservative religious belief on the acceptability of sex and sexual pleasure. The practical and the non-secular often get clouded together. There can be valid reasons for conservative treatments of things. Check out my comment below.

I support a religion to believe as they will. Where they step over the line is when they  attack/persecute/kill others for not believing or doing as they do, or, when their practices force people into physical or psychological harm. Human sacrifice and female genital mutilation would be a good example of this. However, there are other things which an outsider would see as damaging and the insider does not. Like black burka wearing. It can be a fine line between religious belief causing harm and holding people trapped within it and outsiders meddling.
I don't want a world where their beliefs are persecuted any more than I want one where mine are by them or any non-religious source. If your rules/beliefs that you live by in your religion/life say x, then you do and live by x. Live and let live and you can't save everyone.

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