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Scandalouswoman.com did a cosmo this week with the Seven Rules for a Successful Threesome - and that's a MFM (male. female. male) threesome. I liked the info that was provided on how you set the speed for how soon you and a prospective 2nd male make the threesome happen because some men will push and rush things to "close the deal." Assertive, yes, but not gentlemanly. Not patient. However, if you're a woman who likes that in a man, have fun.

For me, the biggest problem with the article is that they advise the woman to give pleasure while she's trying to have an orgasm, in light of you can't pay too much attention to one person or it leaves out the other person. This is true, but it's done better at different times during the sex. Trying to pleasure someone and take pleasure that makes you come is a  bad idea for most people, women or men, and it doesn't touch on this subtle detail: if you're performing oral sex while you're moving toward an orgasm, then either performing oral sex turns you on and makes things hotter or you're dealing with ping ponging between concentrating on performing the blowjob and the pleasure heading you to your own orgasm. Most people can't focus on enjoying the sensations while performing the intricacies of pleasuring someone else. Something has to give.

It's like what Betty taught me: you have to stop kissing long enough to have an orgasm. Sure, kissing and fucking at the same time is hot and hot to do, the two sources of slippery, above and below, but I've never ever been with a woman who came while that was happening. The kissing had to stop and performing oral sex while taking cock inside your pussy and clitoral stimulation too and expecting to come is the same thing. Maybe if she can go into a holding pattern while getting "face-fucked" and her clit done or something, but even that's not the same thing. She's in full feminine receiving mode there, not giving mode.

This is an example of how the sex advice out there, even advanced sex advice, still can't keep up with our advice and sex education at dodsonandross.com. If it could, then why am I not seeing these details discussed/included in tips and teachings? Or mistakes made in the advice that's given? Very often, the details matter for the very best sex. It's also a great example of how experience with sex -is- important and also not 100% important-- because many of us spend years doing the same lower or intermediate level stuff, even though you can claim to have done it 10,000 times with 10,000 people. You're not innovating, you're not growing, because paying close enough attention to the details. This active intention for sex life growth is what makes a decision for monogamy much smoother, by the way.

Time for the next installment in our Sex Skills Series: Sex Positions (coming out this May).

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