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 One thing I forgot to mention on this topic, I remember the first partner I was with who swallowed my seed and I was on the phone with her saying how, on an intimate warm-hearted level, it meant something to me for her to do that. She'd not thought of it that way before and liked my perspective. It's the romantic, so to speak, of oral sex for men. A part of me, made by my body, taken into hers and accepted. Not every semen swallowing has to be viewed this way or its wrong. It is another often missed erotic and intimate gesture.

I definitely see it as a loving gesture. For me, I've always swallowed in a committed relationship. It almost seems rude not to and I really enjoy it.

Once I was coerced into swallowing with someone I was not really into and knew that I didn't want to continue to be intimate with. Later that day I had terrible cramping and diarrhea. It was like my body completely rejected it. At the time it felt terrible emotionally, tasted bad and couldn't even be accepted by my body. That was a complete affirmation of my feeling that, for me it was something I reserved for truly special partners.

I am pretty open sexually but one thing I hate is someone purposefully ejaculating on my face. It feels gross and stings if it gets into the eyes! I will gladly have it sprayed all over anywhere else..but not there.

Most of my girlfriends refuse to swallow or have any contact at all with their lovers semen which I have never been able to understand. It's the evidence that I was able to sexually satisfy someone I've chosen to be intimate with...there is nothing better than that.

That your body so dramatically rejected him. Yes, it is very true that it stings if it gets in your eyes. Olivia found that one out and closes her eyes, but is a little torn because she loves watching the semen jet out of the end of his cock that's so close to her vantage point.

I also think semen scent and flavor helps a lot of women to enjoy it more. I don't drink very much at all, don't smoke, eat fruits and vegetables and lean meats and that makes a difference. I had one young woman once tell me how she had taste issues with men and it's hard to eroticize it. That when she found a guy with mild to no flavored semen, she found it much easier to let her lust go and look forward to the flavor and scent.

Yes, that physical manifestation of orgasm is a very primal hot spot for most of us. I love it too. However, Betty and I have discussed and taught for a while now that in contrast to male ejaculation, which is almost always accompanied by orgasm, female ejaculation is not always accompanied by orgasm in women. It often isn't, actually, and depending on the woman. There is a confusion that's clouded people's sexual knowledge that if it happens one way for the male, it happens the same for the female. Not so. Having the self-esteem and erotic surge in you for triggering an ejaculation is fine by itself, yet it doesn't always mean orgasm.

Women as compared to men don't have outward visual physical signs as compared to men (to most people's eyes) so that's another reason why I think female ejaculation gained some of the fervor behind it that it has. As I learned more about female orgasm, I started loving the feeling of her muscles and how they clamp down hard on my penis or fingers, or throb powerfully during her orgasm. I remember one hot sex session where my lover was on her knees, head down, me holding the cleft of her ass open as I pumped all the way down into her slowly but forcefully as she came, vibrator on her clitoris. I could see her anus contracting and relaxing over and over again from the autonomic contractions of orgasm. So hot. It was the last erotic straw and made me come in her from watching that and the intense feelings in my cock from pushing my way into an orgasm-tightened pussy.

Eric,

Your lover, Billie, is mentioned in several pieces of your informative posts in an erotic fashion, yet I can't seem to find a description of her anywhere.

It would be much appreciated if you could fill us in on her particulars, like with your other lovers, for those of us that like to follow along... ;-)

Many thanks for your wonderful accounts,

An intrigued follower

 Yes, Billie erotica hasn't been written in full yet. I do have lots of notes from all the sex she and I have shared together. She's a full-bodied woman. Size 12 to 14 and very sexy in the ways specific to that body type; different from totally in-shape sexy. The sensation of that erotic attraction I feel is different from each other. Big strong thighs, round and carved calves, a fucking sexy-huge, firm and round ass that tapers to a smaller waistline, gorgeous face, (lips and eyes especially) and big natural breasts. She does have some extra pounds and has lost a lot of weight through working out. That's how she got the amazing, powerful legs and strong ass. Think venus of willendorf hotness. Curves everywhere. And the strongest, tightest aroused pussy I've ever been with. Like I said before, we don't know why her erectile tissue ring gets so big, fat, full, and hard. It just does. Plus, her vagina is quite muscular from PC muscle exercises. Billie was the first first-hand example I experienced of how female erections can have an effect on what my penis feels. I could see viagra use for women creating such an effect, but maybe not.

 As far as our size differences, Billie once told me the first time we met that she was afraid I wouldnt be able to handle her because, stature-wise in comparison to really big guys, "He's so small!" It did work out though. Billie does love really big men that make her feel small, and that's okay too. Same as I love sexforms with women that are small compared to my stature. That's a big thing out there in heteroland, I think. The size comparison of the woman partner to the male. How many straight/bi women want a man that's bigger than they are, and sometimes exceedingly so. A psycholgical erotic of big manly Tarzan, rawr!, sort of thing. That was a tough thing, self-esteem wise, for me in the beginning, because I defintiely have a taste for larger scale amazon women. However, not all big girls feel that way and if they do, they have their huge male lovers as well and everyone's happy.

Thank you for the quick response!

Although, to be honest, it's not what I was expecting you to reply with; but an interesting change nonetheless. So interesting how you are attracted to both the body types, from a sheerly aesthetic point of view. Not the norm, as far as I've encountered.

Her erectile ring sure sounds fun, though!

I find it particularly gratifying any time i meet, talk to, or read about a man (of any size) who has a 'thing' for a woman of size. And i'm not just talking poundage, but stature.

When i was young i used to beat myself up for being "less feminine" than my girlfriends. How could any boy (because at the time i was in highschool) find anything remotely sexy about my nearly 6 ft, solidly built frame. Sure, it came with a pretty face and lips that just screamed "we love sucking" but aside from that i felt like i'd have been better off having been born with a penis so i could be out on the football field doing what surely these broad shoulders were meant for....throwing tackles. (Needless to say i never required those shoulder pads that all women's clothes seemed to come with up until recently)

All that changed when i finally went away to college. I've always been sexually liberated, and while not super jazzed about the body genetics had handed me, i certainly wasn't going to let that stop me from pursuing sexual pleasure. It was in those early years of exploration that i discovered that many a hot man was a bit of a chubby chaser, and not at all intimidated by my height, or at least, if they were, a big deal was never made about it.

While i have, in the past sought out sexual experiences with men who were taller (thus fulfilling that "he tarzan me jane" role play) i've never wanted to be with a man who was larger, or heavier than myself. I'm in complete agreement with the comedienne Mo'nique. Two fat people together just does NOT work. At least, not for me. But in that same vein, overly built men don't do anything for me either.

Anyway, tonight i am raising my glass (of ice water) to all the hot, glamazons out there like myself who know how to throw down with even the most experienced lovers, like yourself, Eric. ;)

To Laskydo, Yes. I examined how the erotic with larger stature women felt and that with smaller stature and I decided I like them both. It gives more variety of erotic experience. I do admit that I have my limits on physical attraction to "chubbies". And, it can also depend on the individual.

I've had sex with two women larger than Billie and they were both memorable and have hot sensations and moments not possible without that body type. Like fucking against and on top of a big, curvy-cloud of woman. I think it's a higher level of sexual sophistication to push your boundaries on body type that you're attracted to and find new erotics. Do I have a preference? Yes, I do prefer in-shape and curvy, smaller stature or large. However, I can play on both sides of the fence and appreciate both.

Very good personal account, Angela! I'm a little surprised that you viscerally aren't into muscle guys. Especially tall ones that dwarf you. Just goes to show, there are always exceptions out there.

And then, there are in-shape, curvy, 6 feet+ beautiful glamazons, or women with larger stature if not height. Those have been what have challenged me the most in my past as far as how much I want them and fight against "she's so hot and beautiful" intimidation feelings welling up. I've gotten much better with that, but it's still not 100% until we get to the bedroom together. Most of those women want 7 foot built guys and I don't blame them. They have similar stuff as any other hetero woman. However, what if they pushed their boundaries and came down to a 6' 1" elven-athletic guy and find the erotic there too?

LOL...So I don't see any pointy ears. Have you been called magical by your lovers? Yes, and it’s the devilish smirk as well, isn’t it? funny..

So, for your benefit, and other “short” 6’1” guys out there, tall chicks would do well to consider that when they are completely intertwined with their lover, who is short enough, the location of his face would be totally hot! I'm guessing providing a measurement from groin to lips would be useful to them as they consider taking a short lover.

Eric

Do you know of any products, either over the counter or prescription medicinals,
that increase the volume of semen produced. My taosit tantra teacher has
suggested walnuts and gobi juice, but I am wondering if you have other
ideas.

mj egape

 Pointy ears are fun. To those who are into "magick," I'm probably not quite magically delicious enough for their taste, (I'm very physical body-based)  and if angels smirk, that would be more accurate. Because according to what I was told, quote, "Angels are nice, but they will own your ass up one side the street and down the other."

Yes! To explore the erotics unique to smaller stature males in comparison to themselves even if their preference is massive men.