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There I was, sitting at my desk, working away, when the phone rang. It was a well young to middle aged woman. Here's our conversation, paraphrased:

"Betty Dodson Productions..."

"I have some questions about the DVD's and toys, but I was expecting to talk to a woman."

"Hi, I'm Eric. You can email Betty via our contact page for any questions you may have," i said.

"Well, I guess... there isn't a woman I can talk to?"

"No, there isn't I'm afraid."

"Hmm... ok. I'm not that comfortable talking to a man, but I guess I'll go ahead and ask you. I'm interested in figuring out which of Betty's dvd's has info on how to expand my selfloving practice. I can have orgasms on my own, so I'm more interested in finding out new ways to deepen my masturbation because I'm single for the moment."

"The Orgasmic Women dvd is best for that. Betty made it from the premise of a frequently asked question from her private session clients, which was how do women look or sound or do their selfloving? Orgasmic Women shows 13 women's selfloving styles that can include things like clothes pins, smooth stones, different toys, etc and you get to see them selflove to orgasm with that method," I replied.

"Huh. Okay," she said. "Does it have Betty in it teaching different methods?"

"No, she appears and asks the participants some questions, but the women in the dvd were given free reign to selflove as they preferred."

"Okay."

The caller's voice was noticeably more relaxed now. She asked a few more questions about the other dvd's, wondering if there were any possible new ideas in them. I said there were some examples of taking different positions with the Hitachi Magic Wand, like straddling it over a pillow or on their knees that may be new for her.

"Hmm... okay, I have some questions on how to use some of the sex toys you sell for more advanced selfloving."

"Okay, go ahead," I said calmly.

"Now, the Betty's Barbell and the Silky Dildo.... Is there anything you can say about them," she asked?

"The barbell's strength is it has the ball and two rings on one end that when slid inside and moved back and forth creates really nice friction sensations while the thin steel shaft makes it easy for women who dont desire more thickness or girth due to comfort issues they may have as individuals for whatever reason. Mr. Smoothie is our penis-shaped dildo of choice due to it's material."

"So it feels more like a real cock? How so?" (By now, her voice was at ease and comfortable.)

"The glans is spongy, almost like the real thing and the surface is very soft and skin-like. It is somewhat absorbent, however, so you'll have to buy one for inside your vulva and another for your bottom if you enjoy that part of you."

Her voice warmed a little more and I don't remember her question, but I do recall my answer:

"Another nice thing with the Barbell is you can slide it all the way down into you and it will stay in place when your vaginal or bottom muscles tighten with your pleasure. Mr Smoothie will pop out. Although, you could take some silk rope and tie around your waist and up between your legs then tied to keep the dildo from slipping out. Then you could enjoy your favorite clit stim and have that full feeling the whole time to squeeze against. Hrm... I should put that on the site."

"I like my fingers on my clitoris, but the last vibe i used wasnt working. It was one of those bunny vibes"

"Was it because it wasnt strong enough? Or too strong?"

"I felt like i had to press in too much."

"Yeah, we teach that if you have to press down very much that you probably need a stronger vibrator or higher setting that lets you move it gently over your clitoris without having to press in and numb her out. The movement creates a friction stroke against her to combine with the vibration too."

I then brought up the Butterfly since she mentioned the rabbit toys it was derived from:

"Did the rabbit toy you had have a shaft?"

"No, just the bunny and the ears."

"Ok. Our Butterfly has an improved bunny concept and what I like about it is you can control the shaft inside your vagina, moving it in short strokes back and forth, and as you do that, the vibrating butterfly strokes and hums over your clit. It's two pleasure sources in one hand. We have some erotica written on it. One woman told me she uses that with a Barbell inside her bottom. That makes three pleasure sources all blended together with two hands. Betty has advocated keeping clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration controlled by different hands in the past, but when a woman wants all three, this is a great way to do it."

"Ah..." she said. "What can you tell me about Betty's workshops?"

"Well, you can go to private session on the command bar on our site and get all the info there, but if you already know how to orgasm, you may be interested in scheduling a session with either Betty or me on advanced selfloving techniques, like what we talked a little about already. Betty taught me her method and info over the past nine years and some women do prefer working with a man or prefer the lower price point than a session with Betty. With Betty or me, you'd have the opportunity to practice the selfloving styles and have instant feedback on how to make it the best it can be or where you may be holding breath or tension when you don't need to."

"Hmm.... Okay, thank you for all the help. I'll be in touch."

"You're welcome. Bye!"

As a footnote, I love calls that shift into places like these where two strangers can talk about how to use our toys and feel at ease or relieved they found someone to talk without worry of predatory or ignorant discussion.

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