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I lay under the white sheets on Xandra's bed at her place. I remember lazily stroking the length of her thigh, down and back, on my side and she on her back. It was the midday on a weekend and we had just finished some pre-lunchtime sex. She said to me,
"I've never had anal sex before. It turns me on though. I'd like to try with you."

In my experience, it's a rare moment when a woman approaches me first with her desire for anal sex.

"I'd love to, Xandra," I said tenderly. "Thank you so much for choosing me."

"You're welcome," she said with a mixture of sweetness and the erotic. Her hair's like a blond waterfall falling straight down the center of her back. I said:

"According to an academic survey i read, anal intercourse is done far more often by heterosexual couples than gay men. It's a pleasure that I've spent quite a while fashioning to perfection. How many women go through pain with anal and don't know how to be free of it? We'll take great care, as long as it takes to get there."

She purred and turned onto her side. We spooned. Xandra pressed her bottom lightly against my groin. I continued:

"You'll never forget the moment when you join the feelings your fingers make rubbing your clitoris with the feelings my hardon makes gliding slowly inside your ass. When things are perfectly lubed inside... you're nice and open... getting gently pumped with my full length, you may feel shivers and waves race and flow along your spine."

Xandra purred louder.

"Yeah... very important to have your clit in on it. You'll open little by little till you get to a place where you can hear your bum make a tiny little suck sound around the head of my glans each time I slide all the way down into you."

Her purr turned into a groan. She arched her hips back against my filling erection.

"Then when you come, the best are the ones where the orgasm feelings exploding in your clit somehow mix down into your ass. You can feel them because I'm still moving my cock in you with slow short strokes...."

"Groan..."

"If I don't, the strength of your ass muscles gripping around my shaft during your orgasm will squeeze me right out and I wont be able to get back in till you finish coming. Keeping the silky movement going against your inner walls is what makes the tingling superpleasure migrate magically down into your bottom... if you're lucky that is. Doesn't always happen."

Xandra replied:

"God.... The only thing is, the idea of doing anal sex doggy style feels very vulnerable to me. Scary."

I smiled inside and reached around to rub her flat belly as she pressed her rear against my hardon.

"For some women I've been with, I've found that once her body and mind fully embraces and hungers for truly great anal sex, my partners have often found a place within themselves to go to their knees and open themselves fully to me because they're sure it's going to be amazing and they trust. Offering her ass to me on her knees with head down and moving the vibrator or her hand into position at her clitoris becomes an 'I can't wait!' and the vulnerability in the position makes it even more erotic and takes it to another level. But before she has practice and her body understands that subconsciously, other positions are more successful."

She sighed. "Okay... I'm sold."

"First we start with something easier to take than my penis. You can already handle fingers, so next is the vaginal barbell." (to be continued)

-Fin

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