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I came back to my lover and her primary partner. She was collapsed over him, breasts pressed against his chest, her narrow rib cage moving up and down with big slow breaths. She told me my attention got her to the edge, then she was moved to climb on top of her man's hard-on and bucked her hips with her hand at her clit all the way to "one of the most profound orgasms of her life." I replied, "See? Teamwork." All three of us high-fived each other.

A little later, after my lover was mouthwashed and refreshed, she and I were laying together on a bed having a warm-hearted moment in the dimly-lit room. Her soft little hand was lubed and moving in small swirls clasped over my glans. Now, my favorite part of group sex is being an extra set of hands added to make a fuck that much more powerful. Or a deep voice in a woman's ear who loves eloquent and penetrating hot talk. I can't fuck unless I meet a partner in the main room and go off to a private or semi private one. That night was the closest I've been to intercourse in the main room. I flubbed up with a condom; putting it on backwards and having to throw it out and open another. Just as my cock was finding its way into my lover, the music switched to the B-52's "Loveshack." That may be groovy sex music for some, but it shot down my erection faster than a loaded gun at my head. Chatter from neighboring groups didn't help either, but not every space is big enough to have a social area separate from the sex area.

I always bring a laptop case with me with whatever i may need: my favorite condoms (just in case, better to have them and not need them than need them and not have them) two lubes: the Sliquid Organics Natural Lube and some Liquid Silk silicone/water-base lube. I bring a Hitachi Magic Wand and an extension cord, Betty's Barbell of course, latex gloves that fit tight, and the Silky dildo. I use the condoms supplied at the event to cover up both ends of the sex toys I use. You can even put a condom over the head of a Magic Wand.

One of the best things about a sex/play party is you can meet someone new, share manual touch in ways more advanced than you normally can. Try asking a woman of your choice if she'd like a belly rub with the lube. I love when a woman raises her arms up over her head, closes her eyes and lets her jaw relax while my hands move like potter's hands over her curves. Take your hands up along the sides of her rib cage and back down again, down to dip just below the edge of her underwear and up again. Eventually see if she'd love her breasts included. Have hot yet considerate emotions going in your heart, mind and body, and enjoy. She will too.  Then offer your number or check out early to find more privacy. There are all levels of play at a play party.

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