Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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It is absolutely true that a sex life can be enjoyed regardless of the shape someone is in. My sex life coaching works for a wide range of body types. It is also true that people in better shape have certain advantages in the bedroom. This blog post will cover several of the most relevant muscle groups for both women and men plus the effect they have on your sex and orgasm quality and possibilities.

While it's true that the largest portion of sex life coaching that Betty and I do for our clients surrounds the exciting subject materials, we also are there to coach clients through relationship issues as they pertain to their shared sex life.

This is a blog on my most recent session with a couples client we'll call, "Judy and Keith." They gave me permission to discuss these specific sections of their coaching.

I woke up in the middle of the night last night with my beloved Kira making soft moans and pressing her hourglass body back against my thigh. One thing led to another and before you knew it, I was straddling the backs of her thighs and pushing myself straight down into lots of her slippery.

The way she looked drove me sex-crazy because I'd just clicked something on from above that gave her an instant rich, deep tan.

As a sex life coach, I hear a particular question fairly often: “How do I get him to initiate sex more often? I feel like I’m always the one who gets things started.” Some of the reasons why he may be doing this can combo together to make him even less likely to charge forward. Here are four solid things I tell my clients:

Recently I was reminded of one of the most important mindful-based skills in good kissing: not letting your saliva overwhelm your partner. This is particularly common in men because often with visual sexual attraction and turn on to a hot female body or face, he starts salivating. There are moments when this is okay, but also it can be a big turn off for women.

New female clients, married or in a long-term relationship, tell me how heavy their burden is with frustration and dread vis a vie sex with their partner.

There has been an accumulation of resentments over the years, mistakes made by the both of them. The frustration comes from trying so many times and hoping this time will be the one for great sex, but the same outcome happens once again-- no orgasm. They want better sex...amazing sex, but negativity is often what looms in their minds.

We'd already turned off the DVD player and my girlfriend had stripped herself down. We'd made out on the couch together after watching a few hot sex scenes, and it came to me to kiss her with the same kind of kiss she'd seen the characters on-screen do. It brings more kick to the mental-erotic put in her mind by the movie. It was a very slow kiss. The character kissing the woman on screen was making sure she felt every aspect of her lips. I held the same intention and it was very well received.

Yourtango.com covered a story on the new survey of divorced or divorcing couples. It reveals that the new number one reason for divorce is falling out of love. It places infidelity at number two on the list, which had been number one for the past eight years. According to the story, more relationships are weathering the first storm of infidelity out, in fact.

It's finally live. In beta and ready to serve:

www.sexlifecoachnyc.com

My sex life coaching business website. I've been teaching solo for going on three years, but this is my first web home besides my existing presence on D&R. I want to thank Betty and Carlin for their support and Betty again for making my cause a reality and dream come true. I chose her as my mentor in 1999 and I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for her. Thank you, and much love to you, Betty.

My form of sex life coaching is very similar to Betty's, but there are some differences. The biggest is I work with clients via Skype when desired and make house calls.

I decided to blog on the news I posted in a comment to my August 2010 blog on the AIM Healthcare Foundation being the cheapest source for the best HIV test available, the PCRDNA HIV test.

Yes, it's official. Aim-med.org is gone. Until another organization like it crops up, another source I found for the PCR-DNA test for HIV, the only one I consider to be worth using, is at www.sexualhealth.com for the not so low price of $300.00 in NYC, NJ, and RI. Everywhere else in the country it's $200.00. The Aim-med.org price was around $100 for industry and around 200 for  non-industry.

As many of my readers know, I periodically blog on wellness issues. It's a sidebar of knowledge I bring to my sex life coaching services. The topic of this post is very important. Click here to visit the www.mercola.com page on this topic.Skip the video at the top, and read the relatively short page on the FDA's (Food and Drug Administration) attempts to create conditions that would ban or drive up the price on many affordable, quality supplements that we all take for granted at this point in time.

I had a sex life coaching session with a client early this morning who told me about a principle from the branch of psychology called, "positive psychology." She said that people with jobs or careers that constantly demand attention to the flaws in a system, or whatever, will very often undergo a brain repatterning. This sharpens their skills to find faults to a razor's edge. The more critical their eye to imperfection is to their job, like nuclear power plant designers for example, the greater the effect.

Night before last, my girlfriend and I settled down together to watch some good quality adult video. First we watched a scene with three young women who started on the floor together drinking orange sodas and hanging out. The conversation turned to sex and of course, "Have you ever had sex with a girl before?" It was staged, but it was done believably, which you don't see very often.

I read an article posted on www.yourtango.com on tips for women to get more compliments from their men. What I teach men in my sex life coaching work is how to develop awareness and appreciation for detail. Our culture doesn't teach straight men to enjoy details. Here are 3 tips for how I learned to enjoy the small facets of a woman's beauty and allure:

1. Understand -why- something is beautiful.

My long time fan Claudia, who wrote five blog posts worth of fantasy erotica on this man's blog, (here's a link to part five, which has a link to part four, etc.) writing and commenting on the real sex she had with a new lover recently. He's former special forces, handsome, muscular, big cock, and has of tons of endurance for non-stop, pounding sex. I hear you get that after the training and then treking around in the field with a fifty pound pack, weapon, and level IV body armor.