I completely agree with what Betty and Carlin last posted on their Friday video about the importance of good masturbation= good sex. It does! I especially agreed with their point that religion fucks up the enjoyment of sex! It most certainly does. I know something about this, because I used to be a fundamentalist Christian for quite a long time. Masturbation provided a very important escape route from that.
Betty's book Liberating Masturbation was exactly what it was--- liberating! As I masturbated more and more, I just couldn't accept that sex was sinful, or that sexual pleasure was a tool of the devil. That was just bullshit. I mean, for me, I just couldn't accept that something that could feel THAT good was bad. Come on! Carlin stated it perfectly when she observed that religion commands us to be a certain way that is plainly out of kilter with human nature.
The real reason that we see so many religious figures having sexual troubles is not that surprising. THEY DON'T ALLOW FOR THE NORMAL HUMAN DESIRE FOR PLEASURE. They are desperately trying to ram a square peg into a round hole. It doesn't really work. How can that be healthy? It makes people who internalize that stuff into neurotics. Just look at the field of recent Republican presidential contenders, it you doubt that. Rick Santorum, probably especially so. That guy is really scary!
As I said earlier, as I read Betty's fabulous little book (which I bought on a whim one day while looking for something to read), and I thought about how reasonable she was about the enjoyment of a simple, harmless pleasure such as masturbation, and, the more I masturbated, the more I just couldn't hold on to the deadening ideology that Christianity is (and Islam and Judaism are the same problem wrapped up slightly differently, is all). One day, the thought occurred to me that if I had to make a choice in favor of masturbation, or in favor of Christianity, I'd choose masturbation. There was no choice, really.
When I was struggling with what I would eventually come to realize was my bisexual inclinations, religion played a very painful role in that, as well. So, like Betty and Carlin said: Go masturbate, and have fun doing it! Don't put the burden on someone else for YOUR orgasms. It is not their responsibility. It's an individuals place to take care of that.