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I haven't written on D&R for a long time, and I won't go into the reasons for that here. (It's a long story.) However, recently, I had the chance to watch three films by legendary gay porn film maker Joe Gage (aka Tim Kincaid): El Paso Wrecking Corp., Kansas City Trucking Co., and L.A. Tool & Die. I had seen L.A. Tool & Die many, many years ago, but I had not seen the other two. So, when the chance came up to do so, I did.

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Yesterday, my son sat down and confronted me regarding something he had seen (accidentally) on my lap-top earlier in the day. I had had a photo of a handsome younger guy that I had found erotically appealing as the background. My son walked by my room (I had gotten busy with something else for a few moments and was out of the room), and saw the picture!

My son was bothered by that photo all day long, and just as I was getting ready to go to bed, he confronted me about it in front of my wife. I knew the jig was up at that point, and though I had intended to keep my sexual orientation largely hidden from him, that was now no longer possible!

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I grew up in a modest-sized, mid-western town in the over-whelming "red" state of Kansas. I had very religious parents, and attended church every single week. I grew up hearing the story of Sodom and Gomorrah told with exquisite relish.

I remember setting there on one of those hard wooden pews (designed to keep you awake during those agonizingly long, drawn-out sermons that Baptist preachers seem so fond of pouring over their congregations) and thinking to myself that I was going to go to Hell. I thought that for the simple fact that I was occasionally "fooling around" with several of my male friends in ways that I had no doubt would greatly shock and displease my parents.

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With all the sad and crazy things going on recently, here in America, as well as the rest of world (that seems to have gone utterly mad!), I'd like to shift focus onto something that many people find enjoyable: masturbation.

I have been a fairly avid masturbator ever since I first discovered it's amazing properties as a kid.

I doubt that I am all that different from most men and women, but I would almost bet that I have masturbated far more often, than I have ever gotten laid. After all, masturbation is so easy to do. I have masturbated in all sorts of different places, and in all sorts of different times in my life. I have never grown tired of going solo.

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It's been a while since I posted anything here, but after watching a very interesting documentary called For The Bible Tells Me So, directed by Daniel Karslake in 2007, I just had to recommend this to those who visit Betty and Carlin's site!

The film looks at the issue of homosexuality in America, and how the Religious Right has used The Bible for very draconian purposes in order to perpetuate discrimination against a particular set of people within our society.

I could never do this documentary justice by trying to boil it down to several sentences, so I'll urge you to go out and watch it for yourselves. It's just over an hour an a half. The people that are interviewed were all professing and practicing Christians, for instance! That got my attention from the start.

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The nuttiness of the Religious Right is so apparent these days. In fact, this last Republican quest for the White House really showed it in stark detail. It got a little wearying to the soul to watch these Bible Thumping wannabes rant on about the sickness of our evil "secular" society. Sometimes, I admit, I just let it get to me way too much.

Happily, though, I found a really wonderful antidote to all the body- and- pleasure- loathing Fundies: MASTURBATION!!!!

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With all the generally depressing recent palaver by the Religious Right about America needing to be "rescued", and "restored" to it's former status as a "Christian Nation" (which,of course, it was never intended to be by the Founders), I recently discovered a piece of American secular history, and in the very heart of the state of Texas, of all seemingly unlikely places. Let me tell you just a little bit about it, if I may.

Consider the beautiful little town of Comfort, Texas. My wife and I were recently down in the Texas Hill Country region, and were introduced to this small piece of American history by some acquaintances there.

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I was pleased with all the nice responses I got about the topic of masturbation the other day, and here's an addendum to it:

Liandra said that when she was a girl that she had some misinformation about masturbation (hair growing on the palm of her hand, etc.), and I grew up hearing that as well. One extra twisted piece of information I got from church, was that if you (and this was tailored to the guys) masturbated, that you'd soon run out of sperm and be sterile, and be unable have kids someday.

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I completely agree with what Betty and Carlin last posted on their Friday video about the importance of good masturbation= good sex. It does! I especially agreed with their point that religion fucks up the enjoyment of sex! It most certainly does. I know something about this, because I used to be a fundamentalist Christian for quite a long time. Masturbation provided a very important escape route from that.

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Dopamine. Serotonin. Norepinephrine. Oxytocin. These are four chemicals that are being increasingly understood as having powerful effects on we human beings when it comes to the ways in which we experience pleasure, and sexual pleasure, in particular.

There's nothing better sometimes than to curl up with a well-written book, especially on a cold, dreary, winter day. I have been reading E.M. Forster's (posthumous) book, Maurice. Forester is probably more known for his earlier books A Room With A view, Howard's End, and A Passage To India. Maurice, as I mentioned earlier, was not published until sometime after Forster's death in 1969.

As I was reading the newspaper this morning, there was yet another article regarding Mitt Romney and Newt Gingrich, and their quests to replace (read "save" America from the evil black man in the White House) President Obama. Etcetera, etcetera. Ad nauseum.

As I was reading this, my wife and I were making comments about each man's professed religious convictions, and I made the comment that even with Newt's "open-marriage" issues hovering around him (as he studiously ignores it), the Religious (evangelical) Right may not exactly like him, and would prefer he was someone more honorable, more "Christ-like" in his past personal life, still, for them he is much preferable to Mitt Romney. Why is that? Romney is (gasp!) a MORMON!!!! (Oh! My! God!)

When I came across this quote the other day, it had not yet been identified with it's author, and I thought it might have originated from some commentator on Fox News, or some other current Right Wing source, but, it wasn't. Here's the quote:

"If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it. The lie can be maintained only for such time as the State can shield the people from the political, economic, and military consequences of the lie. It thus becomes vitally important for the State to use all of its powers to repress dissent, for the truth is the mortal enemy of the lie, and thus by extension, the truth is the greatest enemy of the State."

Greetings from Jesus Country (aka Kansas)!

Our new governor is busily trying to enact legislation that he has been promising to do for quite some time (since before he was governor, in fact), and that is NOT good news for the poor. However, it is very good news for those who will be the beneficiaries. Let me see if I can explain at least some of what he has in mind.

First, and foremost, taxes (according to current Republican political ideology) are evil. It's akin to robbery. Rich people are being robbed by the poor. Did you know that? The POOR are ROBBING the RICH! (O!M!G!). The poor are (apparently) a bunch of lazy, no-good, loser's. They don't want to work. They prefer to lay about in squallor and suck-down free money from the rich. Disgusting, isn't it?

Since it was Christmas recently, it seems as if a lot of talk about believing in God occurred in my life.

The BIG question was this: "Well, if you don't believe in God, or that the Bible is the Word of God, what keeps you from going out and raping, and stealing, and killing? If God doesn't exist, doesn't that mean that everything is permitted? You can't have morality with that as your basis." I have heard this question more than a few times! I didn't mind hearing it once again; in part, because the person who asked me that seemed sincere about it.

In replying, I turned the tables on the person and asked them almost the same question, but in a slightly different way.