Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
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My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir - EBOOK EDITION |
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Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop DVD |
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Betty Dodson Liberating women one orgasm at a time |
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Carlin Ross Sex, Politics & More Sex |
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Eric Amaranth Sex life coaching, real life erotica, and wellness |
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Lawrence Lanoff Reality Hacker. Sex Educator. Geek. |
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Liandra Dahl Sex Documentarian |
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LilithLand Women, Sex, Culture & Relationships |
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Christina Cicchelli Professional Pervert |
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Dr. Lulu History & the Material Culture of Sex |
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Emily and Ju Queer love |
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Eric Francis Astrology & Adventure |
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Jenn Parenthood. With Cursing |
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Jessica Kramer Liberating Birth |
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Kasini Poet. Educator. Catalyst. Mother. |
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LesleyS Redefining my sexual self after babies. |
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Logan Levkoff sexologist, sex educator, intellisexual, author, mom |
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Marisa Black Finding room for all of me |
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Marylou Naccarato Learn how to raise your level of “Sexability” |
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Solo Sexualist |
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TOP TEN SEX EXCUSES
1. Too tired
2. I'm not in the mood
3. I've got a headache
4. I've got to get up in the morning
5. I'm pre-occupied with work
6. I'm angry with you
7. I can hear one of the children
8. You need a shower
9. I've got a bad back
10. Too soon in our relationship
In a study of 4,000 adults, www.onepoll.com found that 1 in 5 of us regularly make excuses to avoid sex. The played out "I have a headache" moved down the list from #1 to #3 with "I'm too tired" taking the top spot (seems the recession is giving us the ultimate excuse for avoiding sex).
The most interesting part is that men are more likely than women to make excuses with 27 per cent admitting they often avoided sex compared to 18 per cent of women. Women just pretend to be asleep (we're so passive aggressive).
Four out of ten men said they avoided getting into bed at the same time as their partner in case they suggested sex. One in in five women said they same thing (guess that's a bit passive aggressive too).
Betty is totally right. No one is having sex. God, I'd love to pour myself into a pair of bell bottoms, pop a lude, head to a music festival, and fuck my brains out. Am I the only one?
nope !
you're not the only one ;)
reasons for excuses
I think that sometimes it's not that the man doesn't want sex, but rather that, for one reason or another, he feels he may not be able to perform well at the time, and would prefer to say he doesn't want sex rather than risk that embarrassment.
Luxury
I think people forget the joys of sex.
Sex education merely tells you how sex works, and about STI's and playing it safe. It rarely, if ever, talks about the pleasurable side.
Everytime I've told a close male friend that its all about clitoral orgasms, they STILL try to tell me that vaginal is the way forward. When I tell them I don't have vaginal orgasms, they always tell me of an ex-girlfriend who did, maybe more than one.
Sorry, getting side-tracked. In our busy lives, people are more worried about bills, and deadlines, etc. They all convince themselves they don't need sex, that they don't even want it.
'Its a luxury' is a mindset that has become common amongst far too many people.
Just have sex and rethink why you had that mindset in the first place!
Then if you still have the 'I can live without it' mindset, then perhaps you should rethink who your partner is.
I think NV has a point.
I think NV has a point. While these excuses are valid, they are easily fixable. It's when the excuse repeats itself again and again and again that it's hinting at deeper issues that can't easily be fixed. For example, when a man feels embarrassed to perform, when a woman has lost her sexual libido, or (which I feel like it's more common than we think), when both loved ones are just not sexually into each other anymore. All of these problems take time and compromise to confront and deal with. It also means stepping outside of everything we thought we knew about relationships. And not many people are willing to face that. So, they opt for excuses instead.
"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde
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