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Stepping Outside the Gender Box

Thu, 03/19/2009 - 13:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty, take a breath - Ladies, hold on to your panties.  O Magazine (yes I mean Oprah) has a feature entitled "Why Women are Leaving Men for Other Women" tracking the phenom of straight women opting for lesbian relationships later in life.  This was our experience in Cuba and in LA.  Women who had been married and had children opted for a sapphic relationship mid-life.  Here's some of the thinking behind the "why":

...experts like Binnie Klein, a Connecticut-based psychotherapist and lecturer in Yale's department of psychiatry, agree that alternative relationships are on the rise. "It's clear that a change in sexual orientation is imaginable to more people than ever before, and there's more opportunity-and acceptance-to cross over the line," says Klein, noting that a half-dozen of her married female patients in the past few years have fallen in love with women. "Most are afraid that if they don't go for it, they'll end up with regrets."

Women clearly understand that there are many lifestyle and sexstyle choices available to them.  Wonderful!

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Thu, 03/19/2009 - 19:34
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I am a nurse and I have noticed older women with grown children who are now in lesbian relationships. I work with a lesbian doctor and I mentioned this to her. She made a comment that made me sit back and think. She said that lesbians rarely have sex without orgasm. She also said that she cannot understand why straight women continually have sex without orgasm. She was shocked that her sister was married for ten years without orgasm.

Interesting. I think lesbians my hold the key to female sexual freedom. Any thoughts?

My Thoughts

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Fri, 03/20/2009 - 01:39
TerTer46

My first, and last thought, is that most men do not have a clue as to what women want when having sex.  They only think of themselves and getting off.  Once they are satisfied, then they are done.  Women have to speak up and tell them what they would like.  I was fortunate enough to have a woman, when I was a young lad starting out in the world (Navy), to teach me how to please a woman by caressing and enjoying a womans soft spots (her pussy and all of its parts) along with many other parts of a womans body that need soft caressing and attention before, during and after having the intercourse part of the play.

TerTer46

A second thought after all!

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Fri, 03/27/2009 - 01:26
TerTer46

My point on this is that most men - still do not have a clue how to please a woman - make her orgasm.

They need a teaching partner, assuming they are willing to learn, since they too will get much more pleasure out of a women when they assist her in getting off.  Ejaculation is not an end all, it is a climax but not very satisfying if only the man get his jollies.

I will never forget the first time I had a female partner orgasm, it was exciting and made me cum that much harder and stronger with a vibration that shock the "earth".  I asked what I did to help, if anything and she explained what she liked about our experience and what was lacking but in the end she said we did 90% of it correct so that her orgasm was explosive.

Since that time, about 40 years ago, I have asked almost every partner what she likes or dislikes and how to make her cum to climax for her enjoyment. Almost all of them have said that I was the first to ask and they enjoyed that part of the sex as muchc as the sex itself.

 

TerTer46

 

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