Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Time to let it all go about Barbi. Men don't expect women to look like a child's doll. Not Barbi, not Ginger, not Ginny or any other child's doll.

I have been with women with big boobs and small and given a choice I'll take the girl with a brain and small boobs as long as she lets me give her clit a proper workout with my mouth, tounge and fingers.

That's actually an older version of Barbie that is being used for the proportions. About a decade or so ago, they remade her with wider hips, a wider waist, and a smaller bust.
It's also pretty unrealistic to say that playing with a doll leads to BDD. Barbie was my favorite toy; I had at least 40 Barbies and played with them pretty much every day. I don't have BDD or an ED, and I'm perfectly fine with my fuller figure. I don't expect to look like a plastic inanimate object as I'm a human and humans come in all shapes and sizes. The same goes for all my friends; the only friend of mine who has/had an ED never played with Barbies that much.
Basically, it's up to the guardians of those young girls to say, "This is a doll. Not a real person. Real people all look very different." etc

That kind of manswer is just fkn gross.

Thanks for publicly admitting you really don't care about a woman as long as you can shove your hands down her pants. That's great.

I agree that the fashion industry and its lackies in the media have much to answer for. Most models are at least 1.7m tall. Not that I have anything against tall women (in particular, they do not make me feel insecure), but the vast majority of women are well short of that. (Life is less than fair to petite women as well as to plump ones.) We idolize female figures that are either utterly impossible to achieve (Barbie) or that are rare and unhealthy (Kate Moss).

Women who hate their sexual natures don't die from that; they simply grow old alone. But women who hate their figures have DIED from the resulting eating disorders. Reader, can you imagine my horror and disgust when I first read about bulemia?? Young women so twisted about having the "right" T&A that they binge and purge and rot their teeth? It is high time that we alter attitudes about the body rather than the body itself. (I am very sensitive to problems arising from cultural misperceptions of the human body, because I grew up intact in a place and time where every male was cut.)

A buxom colleague of mine in her late 30s, once told me, during a discussion of bullying in middle and high school, "Girls bully by taunting each other into eating disorders." Could it be the case that plump teenage girls endure more taunts from other girls than from boys?

There is a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks to digicams, broadband, and the Internet, any woman (an "amateur") can upload naked pictures of herself to the Internet. The IShotMyself format is now well established and recognised. The quality of the photography usually leaves a lot to be desired, mainly because amateurs don't understand lighting. At any rate, we are now flooded with images of real women naked. Most amateurs are never married and under 25, but a few are in their 40s and 50s ("matures"), and I bet that the number of the latter is set to grow. A lot of these women are a bit coy about showing their faces full on, and some women who do this do not look happy. But many are. In fact, a powerful sense of pride seems to reach out to me across the tangles of the Net.

We have lost sight of the fact that the sexiest part of the human body is the mind and its imagination. If a woman is very sophisticated about her body and my male body, has a good sexual vocabulary and sense of humour, has a lot of bawdy curiosity in conversation, has wise and delicate fingers, climaxes with me every time and really seems to enjoy it, I submit that her face and body shape fade into insignificance. The ugliest part of the body is a bad attitude.

Men, what would you prefer? A night with someone who looks like Cate Blanchett, but who simply lies back in bed, saying coldly and sarcastically "get on with it, OK" or a woman who looks like Kathy Bates, but who undresses you eagerly, takes a shower with you, feasts her eyes on every minute of your nakedness, gets down on her knees to give you a great slow BJ, comes 3-4 times before you do, and cracks wonderful off-colour jokes all the while? I know my vote.

I was rail thin much of my life, but decided long ago that there was no reason why a grown woman had to look anything like me. Sadly, we slender men do have a sexual advantage: the penis is usually better defined. But we slender men have no innate advantage when it comes to things that really matter, like fingering the clit and giving women oral.

Carlin, seriously, I never really looked at Barbie that way! It's more of a companion for my daughter and I'm really appreciative to the makers for creating a playmate for her. How and why the fashion industry influenced the way she is today is kinda baffling!

Cheers, Ed

I don't care if Barbie was real and that tall she would still be hot and I would kick Kens ass ..

As we learned from the recent memoir about Mattel and Barbie creator Jack Ryan, Barbie wasn't made in the image of a "real woman." Barbie was made in the image of Ryan's sexual fantasies.

Any young woman who looks to Barbie for vindication about their own image is silly. Any young woman who looks to the fashion industry as well will be disappointed (although that landscape is surely, but slowly, changing). Both of these industries (toys and fashion) are marketing an illusion to us... not reality. in recent years, we have seen progressive shifts in attitudes and body acceptance. But, again, we're "buying" a fantasy. And, our fantasies always project our ideal selves, a self that we needn't aspire to become...only dream about.

Personally, Barbie never made me feel bad about my body because she wasn't a role model to me. She was an object in which my imaginations (both innocent and cruel) were exercised. Nothing more. Nothing less. Some young girls will understand that; others won't.

"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde

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The same goes for disney princess figures and caracters. Just recently looked at those waists and they are so thin that it makes me sick. All the little girls that looks them for whole childhood and dreames to be a princess are going to get hard reality when they don't have that kind of body at adult age. It's hard to keep them safe and try to raise normally in this kind of society we live in.

I have been with women with big boobs and small and given a choice I'll take the girl with a brain and small boobs as long as she lets me give her clit a proper workout with my mouth, tounge and fingers.

I don't know if it is barbie's fault, or the skinny models who are promoted by the media in combination with a low self esteem, but it is clear that anorexia is a real problem for most teenage girls. I never took this disease serious until i had to go through an anorexia nervosa treatment myself, you don't realize you have it until you become bone skinny and scare everyone around you. My parents were the ones to convince me i had an eating disorder, otherwise i would have continued starving myself since i wasn't able to see myself, i couldn't tell how skinny i was in fact..

The barbie isn't the only one who is guilty about creating the confusion in little girls mind these days. Disney princess franchise is another bad way to show little girls what is beautifull in todays world. Altough I like the idea of those princess and those fairy-tales are great reading and they look so cute it is important to really tell our little princesses what is normal in the looks of a young girl these days. The media and tv is not going to do it for us. Kim from kimpods.com