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#2015bestnine = Bodysex Pregnancy & Breastfeeding

Thu, 12/31/2015 - 08:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

There's a site that will pull your most popular pics on Instagram - your best nine - into one post worthy photo.  I've been seeing them on FB and wondered what my top nine pics would in my panties, traveling with Betty, behind-the-scenes pics? 

The bottom left picture is one of my favorite because it's me, no makeup, on the beach right after getting out of the ocean.  The top middle picture was a breastfeeding selfie I took in the hospital the first day Grayson arrived.  I'm not surprised that my pregnancy glamour shots were popular but I didn't think my Bodysex and my breastfeeding pics would be up there too.

Nude Portraits & Body Scapes that Let You Be You

Wed, 12/23/2015 - 09:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm loving Marshall Bradford's Body Image Project.  You have to look past the black bars over nipples, vulvas, and penises so the photos are FB compliant but seeing real bodies is so refreshing.  He admits that it was hard at first to let the models just be themselves.  He had to overcome his training to create images that were "commercial". 

Cats That Look Like Pin Ups

Wed, 12/16/2015 - 09:07
Submitted by Carlin Ross

As someone whose panty pics grace, this tumblr blog Cats That Look Like Pin Ups had me laughing. It's so hard to hold your body so that it's perfectly appealing and keep a smile on your face. It's agony.

When you break down what we deem as "sexy", it's really quite funny. And when you put a cat in the same blow-up-doll poses it's fucking hysterical.


Planned Parenthood is NOT Selling Baby Parts

Tue, 12/15/2015 - 08:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I was so happy to see this video, someone coming to the aid of Planned Parenthood. Who else is done with the Right's attempts to find PP is some sort of "scandal"?

They are NOT selling baby parts. No one believes your bs video exposes. Doesn't Congress have something better to do - like guaranteeing equal pay or saving the environment - than try for the umpteenth time to defund PP?

This is what I think about during the Holidays - good will and peace towards "woman"kind.

Love this video

Something Shifted This Past Workshop

Wed, 12/09/2015 - 12:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

During this past workshop, something shifted for me and Betty. We're not sure whether the woman are getting better or we are....maybe it's the culminative "bodysex effect". It feels ordained like we're fulfilling our purpose. It feels wonderful.

When Betty came in from the back room and sat in the circle, she looked around at the women and was completely lovestruck. I've never seen this happen before. She sat there smiling and announced that she was in love with every one of them. When Betty is in that kind of mood, it means something. I knew the weekend was going to be profound.

Circle Jerk Girls

Thu, 12/03/2015 - 11:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is the coolest fucking piece of sex positive media I've ever seen in my life.  I fucking love you Peaches.  It has it all: full frontal nudity, orgies, body diversity, circle jerk girls and chicks with dicks.


Peaches - Rub (Uncensored) from Peaches on Vimeo.

Love Amy Schumer's Rolls

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 08:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Amy Schumer posted this behind-the-scenes pic from her Pirelli shoot with Annie Leibovitz.  That's right the Pirelli calendar that usually features the photoshopped bodies of beauty's 1%.  Change is afoot, ladies.

I have to say that I love her stomach rolls.  They remind me of a classical painting - I want to reach out and run my hands over her supple flesh.  Thank you, Amy, for not elongating your torso and twisting to mimic tautness.  And thank you, Pirelli, for diversifying and including a range of beautiful bodies. 

As Amy posted, "Beautiful, gross, strong, thin, fat, pretty, ugly, sexy, disgusting, flawless, woman".

Barbie Put a Boy in an Ad & People Lost It

Tue, 11/24/2015 - 11:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Moschino has collaborated with Barbie to put out a branded "Moschino" doll.  They featured a little boy with two little girls in their ad and people lost their shit. 

God forbid a boy plays with a doll his dick might fall off, or better yet he may end up respecting women.  This is so ridiculous but, as a new parent, I already feel the pressure to raise a masculine boy.  Fear, hate those are easy to instill.  Love, open-mindedness are a bit harder. 

Here's the commercial:

The Word that Came to Mind was Friendship

Tue, 11/17/2015 - 16:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Each workshop has it's own distinct feeling...part of it is the women who find themselves at Betty's door and the other part is the energy we bring to the group as facilitators. The word that kept coming to mind during this past weekend's workshop was friendship.

The women always bond during Day 1 but this group was special. The connection was instantaneous. It's always rewarding to see women bond through honesty, sharing how they feel about their body and their orgasm. We all suffer the same wounds, some just heal faster than others. Religious repression and misogyny be damned...somehow we all find our way back to ourselves.

Consent It's Simple as Tea

Fri, 11/13/2015 - 07:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Lawrence Lanoff, for including this video in your FB newsfeed.

Consent is simple.  Somehow and for some reason we make it seem difficult.  But when you break it down - like how we go about making someone a cup of tea - it all falls away and things are so straightforward. 

The real reason consent is so hard to understand in our culture is because women aren't seen as independent or equal.  If women aren't paid dollar for dollar with men, then why would you need their consent for sex?  And if they can't choose when to become mothers then why would they choose when to have a penis inside their vagina? 

It really is a slippery slope.  Consent is about equality. I love this video.

Looking Forward to Bodysex

Wed, 11/11/2015 - 11:13
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We have a workshop coming up this weekend and I'm so looking forward to it.  You'd think that leaving Grayson home with Daddy and heading into Betty's at 10am on a Saturday morning would get old, or at least get routine.  But that's not how Bodysex works.

Every workshop I learn something about myself - I remove another layer of shame and self-doubt.  Even when you feel balanced and sex positive there's always a bit of something you can let go of because life happens.  We move through events that weigh us down and bodysex brings me back to me. 

Hedy Lamarr Would be 101 Today

Mon, 11/09/2015 - 09:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Even Google is celebrating Hedy Lamarr's 101st birthday with an animated short of her achievements.

She was an actress who starred in Ecstasy, a film that included the firt female orgasm (during oral sex)

And she developed and patented broad spectrum technology which is the basis of all cellular and mobile applications that we enjoy today.

The US military patted her on the head when she offered them her technology as a means of thwarting German attacks on US submarines (which would have saved countless lives during WWII) and asked her to use her celebrity to sell war bonds.

Of course, she was ahead of her time and died penniless. She's one of the greats and on the list of women I'd like to go back in time and have a drink with...

Zendaya Gets Photoshopped Layout Pulled

Tue, 11/03/2015 - 07:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been saying this forever - if celebrity women refused to sign off on photoshopped images of themselves we could put the whole negative body image nightmare to rest for young women.

Finally, someone had the clit to take on the fashion mags.  Actress and singer Zendaya posted this image of her "retouched" body and negotiated with Modeliste magazine to pull the issue and re-release it with her natural images.  She looks so much more attractive before they slimmed out her figure.  Her real image - the image to the right - is far superior.

I'm hoping this creates a ripple effect and other celebs follow suit.  We could all learn a great deal from this 19 year old. 

Wonder Woman Breastfeeding is Perfection

Sun, 11/01/2015 - 06:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Alyssa Milano, for publishing this picture of breastfeeding in your Wonder Woman costume to #normalizebreastfeeding.

I can't think of a greater super power than nourishing new life.  If only we placed the same value on people who nurture as we do on people who dominate to succeed.

<3 Celebrity Armpit Hair on the Red Carpet

Wed, 10/28/2015 - 07:24
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love a woman with unshaken armpits...especially when it's on the red carpet.  Bravo.

We need an army of unshaken women having independent orgasms demanding equal pay and it seems like it's all starting.