Carlin Ross's blog

Because Opportunistic Rape Gets a Pass

Wed, 06/08/2016 - 11:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We've all seen his picture and the slew of outraged FB posts over Brock Turner's 14 month community service/slap-on-the-wrist sentence for rape. It's the classic scenario of the white male athlete (attending Stanford) raping the passed out girl at the frat party and the "system" not wanting to "ruin" his life with a rape conviction.

A few things stand out in my mind.

First, it's racist. If she'd been raped by a boy of color, the cops would have shot him on the scene, there never would have been a trial, and they all would walk away scot free.

Alicia Keys Joins #nomakeup

Tue, 06/07/2016 - 07:32
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love Alicia Keys for posting this picture of herself with no makeup...I'm always wishing that celebrity women would allow themselves to be real to help girls develop positive body image AND here it is.

I'll admit that I looked into lasering away some sun freckles I have on my face.  I don't have alot of them but people comment on this one brown dot on my forehead and it makes me self-conscious.  Yes, I could laser it off twice a year for a few thousand dollars but why?  I'd rather spend the money on Grayson's education or a family vacation. 

This image makes me feel better.  Thank you, Ms. Keys, for your honesty.

Menstrual Cup = Tighter/Wetter Vag

Thu, 06/02/2016 - 11:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

According to a 2011 study, menstrual cups are the shit.  Not only are they cheaper than tampons (a $25 cup lasts you 10 years), but they keep your pc muscle tighter and your vagina more lubricated. 

It makes sense since any sort of tampon or pad is going to have bleach and/or other chemicals that can dry you out - and I'm not even going to speculate of carcinogenic additives.  Pushing out to insert and release your cup from your vagina as well as pulling in to get it in place is a monthly workout for your pc muscle (a happy pc muscle is an orgasmic pc muscle).

Menstrual Blood in Nature

Fri, 05/27/2016 - 06:34
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha posed for this picture during her recent Bodysex retreat.  She does these wonderful photo shoots in nature during her weekends. 

While posing, she realized that she was bleeding.  The women encouraged her saying that it was beautiful.  I have to agree.

I Needed to Get Back to Our Bodysex Routine

Thu, 05/19/2016 - 14:35
Submitted by Carlin Ross

For me, this past weekend's Bodysex workshop marked a shift in my personal journey. Everything seemed to come together...ground...then open up again. And that's the genius of these groups. We grow as we facilitate. There is no end if we keep our hearts and minds open to the experience.

The last three Bodysex seasons have been a challenge. I had Grayson in the back room with a babysitter - then he graduated to home care with daddy but there was so much more to coordinate: breast pumping, cooking food for the weekend dinners, and rushing home to relieve my Husband. At a certain point, all babies want mommy and I was conscious of that fact. Attachment parenting and breast feeding on demand isn't for the faint hearted.

Punched in the Face for Dishonoring Trump's Phallus

Wed, 05/04/2016 - 08:31
Submitted by Carlin Ross

A female artist, Illmagore on Instagram, painted this portrait of Trump with a small phallus with the quote, "no matter what's in your pants, you can still be a big dick". 

After posting the image on FB, she was assaulted while driving around LA.  A white guy with a Trump bumper sticker came up to her car, punched her in the face, and yelled "Trump 2016".

Now that Ted Cruz is out of the race I think Trump is pretty much the Republican Presidential candidate.  I can't wait for the debates.  And I'm voting for Hillary.

Margaret Cho Calls BAD The Joan of Arc of Orgasm

Wed, 04/27/2016 - 09:39
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We love Margaret Cho so when Rachel emailed us this link we were super proud. They even featured a snip from ouy weekly youtube video.

Betty is the "Joan of Arc of orgasm". 

Most Beautiful Image of Birth

Mon, 04/25/2016 - 07:42
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I absolutely love this image.  It's rare that we see any pictures of we see how the umbilical cord brings nourishment to the baby in utero. 

It's so powerful.  I posted this on FB and people thought it was me.  No, I found this image on a photographers site and it's all in spanish.  She shoots the entire birth and each is uniquely beautiful.

Pleasure is Our Divinity

Tue, 04/19/2016 - 15:48
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Since I became a mom, Betty and I don't get to spend as much time together. The workshops have become the best way for us to reconnect. Now that Grayson is 13 months he can stay home happily with Daddy and mommy can have breakfast with Aunt B, catch up, and assist her in the circle.

When Betty and I click, we click. This past workshop was our best. It felt like we were dancing across the floor anticipating each other's movements, effortlessly gliding through the steps. We ran our third certification workshop; 7 women from Spain, Austria, the West Coast, Boston and NYC will go on to run their own Bodysex groups.

Your Porn-Use Pattern is Largely Molded by a Corporation

Mon, 04/11/2016 - 07:10
Submitted by Carlin Ross

No one watches porn on dvds one is subscribing to Playboy or the Spice channel. Most of us get our porn from aggregator sites like YouPorn, Redtube and PornHub - not surprisingly these sites are owned by one company MindGeek.

I Love Her 60 Year Old Body

Sat, 03/26/2016 - 14:37
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm loving the images from 60-year-old Yazemeenah Rossi's campaign for the new swimwear collaboration between e-commerce site The Dreslyn and lingerie brand Land of Women.

The silver hair is perfection and the softness of her curves and textured skin are so refreshing. She's been a model for decades but feels more secure now than when she was younger:

"When I was younger, I was more insecure but I always wanted to be me. When you are yourself and you don't try to copy, you get power. And you feel that power the more you go on in life."

Motherhood is Shrouded in the Same Myths as Orgasm

Tue, 03/22/2016 - 09:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Sometimes it takes "celebrity" to bring credibility and attention to our experience. Alanis Morissette, Hayden Panettiere, Gwyneth Paltrow and several other celebs have come forward sharing their personal struggle with postpartum depression.

As I read through their stories, it struck me that most of them started experiencing depression and extreme body fatigue several months after giving birth. There was a euphoria after giving birth that faded and left them feeling overwhelmed and under water.

Marina Abramovic's Balkan Erotic Epic

Wed, 03/16/2016 - 08:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I finally stumbled upon Marina Abramovic's Balkan Erotic Epic and had to post it here.  What's amazing is that youtube has no issue with full frontal female nudity (at least not when it's been deemed "art").  We've had clips censored for using the word "masturbation" in the title with no nudity but at least someone is representing for female sexuality.

Whenever we trace back our traditions, it's interesting how most acknowledge the strength and power of the female sex organ.  I love this video:

I Can't Wait for the Xena Reboot

Tue, 03/15/2016 - 07:48
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Xena was the best sapphic erotica/bad ass women show on television EVER.  It was everything I wanted from Charlie's Angels as a girl but had to wait for until the 90's. 

I loved that show and the constant sexual tension between the female protagonists. They're doing a reboot of the original and, according to the showrunner hired to shape the pilot, Xena and Danielle will have a full-on lesbian relationship (fuck yeah):

..."a very different show for very different reasons" - I think we finally may get fully developed, fully sexual female characters.  I want to see lots of sensual kissing, clit rubbing, and slow penetration between slayings and ninja kicks. This could be a game changer.

I Find Myself Still Basking in the Unconditional Love of My Bodysex Sisters

Wed, 03/09/2016 - 16:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This email from one of the women in Natasha's workshop made my week. Bodysex is going global as we speak...

Dear Betty and Carlin,

I cannot thank you enough for making the decision to share your talents and messages of self-love with a larger audience through your Bodysex certification courses. Last weekend, I traveled to Saskatoon, Canada to attend Natasha Salaash’s Bodysex workshop and my experience (one that you know well) can only be described as transformational.