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The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence

Tue, 02/07/2017 - 15:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha posted a link to James Prescott's research on body pleasure and the origins of violence. I read through the dense extract and it was life affirming. We have instincts that, at times, we question. Everything Betty teaches through her books and the workshops can be quantified. Touch and pleasure inhibit violence across the board.

It starts with maternal touch as infants. Cultures that support mothers, don't sexualize breastfeeding toddlers, and encourage general affection have less violence. The concept that pain is useful in child-rearing produces angry, aggressive adolescents and adults. Here's an interesting wrinkle: mothers who didn't experience orgasm were more likely to abuse their children.

Feminism at the Superbowl

Mon, 02/06/2017 - 07:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I don't think we've ever had a more policitized Superbowl.  Most of the ads had a clear pro-diversity theme and it made me proud to be an American.

Then there was this moment when the Schuyler Sisters from the cast of Hamilton sang America the Beautiful and inserted "sisterhood" after the line "and crown thy hood in brotherhood"...it was electric:

Maybe we needed some push back to pave the way for true equality.   The people have spoken.

Loving This Picture of Vicky Balch

Thu, 02/02/2017 - 09:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Vicky Balch lost her leg in a rollercoaster accident when she was 21.  To promote positive body image among young girls, she released this picture featuring her amputation.

It's so powerful and reassuring.  All bodies are beautiful even with life's scars and losses.  What an amazing young woman.

Loving the Glitoris

Tue, 01/24/2017 - 07:58
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is Australian artist Alli Sebastian Wolf with her Glitoris. I love how the glans is prominently represented and all the veins in the bulbs. She's been on stage with Amanda Palmer and even the Guardian featured this pic with top ten facts about the clitoris.

Finally, our sex organ is going mainstream.

All Women Should be Acknowledged & Supported by Feminism

Thu, 01/19/2017 - 09:11
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Trump's inauguration will prove one of the most surreal moments in American history. The system has elected the ultimate symbol of white privilege, misogyny, and corporate greed. The only thing that's keeping me together - besides the amazing twitter commentary on each of Donald's tweets - is the Women's March.

Marking Martin Luther King Day

Mon, 01/16/2017 - 09:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's MLK weekend and it's not lost on any one of us exactly who is in the White House and how his administration feels about minorities (and women). His attacks on John Lewis are just the icing on cake. We've entered an era where nothing is sacred and all are suspect.

The question that keeps rolling through my mind is "how did we get here?" Obama was a great president who saved our auto industry, the economy - reformed our health care system - didn't get caught in any sexual or political scandal. Hillary won the popular vote. Most Americans are moderates. What is the underlying cancer eating this country alive?

Beautiful Reproductive Drawings

Fri, 01/13/2017 - 08:56
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I just love the whimsical quality of this drawing.

If it was drawn today, there would have been a "g-spot" and possibly a "deep-spot".  We have so much to learn about female sexual response. 

Here's to future research, education and artistic renderings of our bodies and orgasmic response.

Golden Globes Made Me Proud to be a Woman

Mon, 01/09/2017 - 13:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm not a huge fan of award shows and I'm definitely not a star fucker but I have to admit that watching the red carpet pics and clips from last night's Golden Globes made me proud to be a woman.

Here is Evan Rachel Wood in a tux - just perfection.  Fuck the gowns she looks so current and so sexy.  We had Lola Kirke on the red carpet in a strapless dress with obvious armpit hair and a "fuck Paul Ryan" button and then there was Meryl's speech.  

She echoed everything I'm been feeling. It is up to the Press to hold those in power accountable.  I feel a new wave of feminism starting to swell:

Promoting the Women's Rights March with the Male Gender Sign

Thu, 01/05/2017 - 12:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Twitter was a buzz over the latest cover for the Washington Post Express.  I'm sure someone got fired but what's crazy is that no one realized that they were using the male gender symbol to promote the Women's Rights March.  You'd imagine that a cover has layers of review and oversight.

I think this fuck up says alot about the current state of feminism.  Forget about knowing what's important to most women or the feminist  agenda - they can't even get the symbol for "woman" right.  Fucking pathetic.

Why Isn't Scarlett Johansson the "Highest Paid" Actor??

Sat, 12/31/2016 - 15:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Forbes released their top-grossing actor list and, for the first time, a woman - Scarlett Johansson - topped the list at $1.2B in ticket sales (thanks to her role as Black Widow). 

At first glance, you'd think that Scarlet smashed though that Hollywood glass ceiling but "grossing" the most amount in ticket sales doesn't mean that you got equal pay.  The highest "paid" actors in 2016 were Dwayne Johnson, Jackie Chan and Matt Damon.  Only two women made it into the top ten paid actors: Jennifer Lawrence and Melissa McCarthy.

The Earliest Rituals were Connected to a Woman's Monthly Bleeding

Thu, 12/29/2016 - 09:49
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love Chanel Baran's photography because she captures the sacred and reminds us that our bodies are purposeful and divine. 

Menstruation is a powerful moment and I missed bleeding for two years while I was pregnant then nursing a newborn.  When I finally got my period again, I felt more powerful.  This is one of my favorite images from her series on menses.

At 16 She Drove Around the World in a Model-T Ford

Wed, 12/21/2016 - 11:26
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Aloha Wanderwell had an amazing life.  In 1919, at the age of 16, she answered an ad for a french speaking secretary posted by Mr. Wanderwell and drove around the world in a Model T Ford with a camera crew documenting it all. 

Of course, she ended up marrying Wanderwell and became a worldwide celebrity.  When you look at the pictures of Aloha, you know the type of young woman she was - a feminist, an adventurer, a lover of life.  When Wanderwell died, she continued her journeys with one of the cameramen and died at 90 in California. 

So glad I stumbled across her pics.  There are so many legendary women who have been ignored by history.  I'm adding Aloha to the list of women I'd like to go back in time and have a drink with, or maybe several.

Sexualizing the Mother Child Bond

Fri, 12/16/2016 - 10:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Both of these images were posted online and got a slew of negative comments.  Apparently, breastfeeding your toddler as you prepare for your second birth and kissing her 4 year old son on the lips (thank you, Hillary Duff, for posting this picture) is offensive and sexually inappropriate. 

The bond between mothers and their children is so strong and so intimate.  When I breastfeed Grayson, we giggle, recite our new words, trace each other's ears and belly buttons.  In other words, we share tenderness and touch.  And, for the record, I kiss my son on the lips. 

We Must Accept Our Sexual Selves

Thu, 12/15/2016 - 10:13
Submitted by Carlin Ross

There are days when I feel like I'm getting pulled down into the quicksands of misogyny especially with our new President elect. America wanted to see Donald "grab [Hillary] by the pussy" during those debates. Stalking...lurking behind her was a reminder that women who try to forge their way in a man's world jeopardize their safety. Hillary lost because of pure, unadulterated hate.

When I watched this clip of Madonna's acceptance speech, every word she said rang true for me. It's that insidious, institutionalized hatred of women that we deny but remains. Just look at the faces of the women in the audience. They know exactly what she's talking about. Thank you, Madonna, for having the clit to call out our culture and how we denigrate women:

What We Can Learn from Pompeii's Erotic Art

Thu, 12/08/2016 - 08:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I was going through my news feed when I found pixelated images of Pompeii's erotic art that had been preserved thanks to the eruption of Mt. Vesuvius.  Yes, they pixelated the areas where genital contact was portrayed.  Oh, America!

As I clicked through the images, I was struck by how inclusive they were in their depictions of sex acts.  There was cunniligus and a very progressive threesome.  It's always two women and one man.  There was the threesome I'd always envisioned: a man vaginally penetrating a woman while he was being anally penetrated by a man.  That makes orgasmic sense.