More Flirting More Foreplay the Rise of the Eromen

Wed, 02/18/2015 - 08:40
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Female-produced adult media is sweeping Japan and it's fascinating.  They still want graphic sex but prefer actors with boyish good looks and story lines that include classic relationship moments like brushing your teeth together or making morning coffee. 

They call this new male porn star the "eromen" and they're available to take you on dates after filming.  I think one of the eromen got it right when he described the difference between male and female porn - men want to know that they made the woman cum while women want to know that the women is experiencing pleasure and the man cares about her pleasure.  I think this subtle difference says so much about the sexual divide between men and women.

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Nice new direction in porn

Sun, 02/22/2015 - 17:58
Jake E

I like the growing success of this kind of porn, though I think the porn makers  view, though well based in their own experience is a little gender polerised and over generalised..  So they miss the exeptions.

I've had sexual episodes with people who pretended they wanted emotional conection, who really just wanted sex. 

And many men have a desperate need of affection and love, created by the social norm of their only acceptable outlet for showing affection being their lover. Where as women are easily allowed and in some ways  expected to have  intimate emotionally sharing friendships. 

But anyway, nice move into a new area for porn. 

True, Jake---men need connection too

Sun, 02/22/2015 - 18:50

You make an excellent point about how the process of being forced into traditional sex roles leaves men emotionally deprived. I have seen a number of Candida Royalle's woman-made porn films, and they're not only tasteful and arguably sexy but they include the emotional connections as well as the physical. They're about two people meeting, feeling attraction, and evolving a meaningful emotional connection that develops quite naturally into a passionate sexual relationship. The characters really connect, and I far prefer this to typical porn. I totally agree that it's not only women who crave this kind of connection---men do too, although many don't consciously know it. Our culture socializes males to deny pain, renounce their tender feelings, and prioritize being 'in control' even during what should be an equal exchange of pleasure. Too many of us have lost touch with the need to nurture and be nurtured that we were born with. There isn't a real 'sexual divide' between men and women, except as an illusion fostered by the way in which society forces us into our rigid sex roles. I predict that 'relationship-based porn' is gradually going to catch on with men too, because it better addresses the authentic emotional needs of both men and women.