Women More Likely to be Sexually Assaulted During First 2 Years College

Thu, 12/11/2014 - 08:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

In the midst of the craziness brewing over Rolling Stone's campus rape article (and whether or not "Jackie" was gang raped at a frat party), we should bear in mind that right now the Department of Justice is investigating 86 schools for their internal handling of sexual assaults committed by students on students.

I remember when I was applying to college - I would ask recruiters what their campus rape numbers were and how they handled investigations with police. They would turn white and just look at me in disbelief. If I was going to pay them $25,000/year for an eduation, then I wanted to know about their security and investigation procedures. Very few of them had any concrete answers and I think that's part of the problem. We want to sweep things like rape - things that make us feel uncomfortable - under the rug.

And we don't want to educate our kids about sex at all no less broach topics like consent. We'd rather encourage boys to be aggressors who take what they want, fill their heads full of male-dominant sexual imagery, and then put them unsupervised on a college campus with a bunch of misinformed, princess-myth-believing young girls...give it a good shake...and see what happens.

It my opinion this is outright child abuse that serves no purpose. Our children are sexual beings from utero and we have to grow the clit to acknowledge that as mothers. We need to start these conversations as early as we can, not wait until their practically adults.

We owe them that much.

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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Teaching consent starts day one

Thu, 12/11/2014 - 14:41
asa (not verified)

I show my sons the meaning of consent everyday.  I never hugg nor kiss them unless they consent to it. Mostly they consent but if they don't, I back of and tell them that I respect that. This is how you introduce consent at an early age. My five year old knows what consent is even though he doesn't know the word. He knows that it is not ok to touch anyone who doesn't want to be touched, no matter how much he wants to. His pre-school teach this to.
 
Some parents seems to think they have a right to hugg or kiss their kids no matter what or even worse talk their kids in to hugg or kiss some else, like granny. They don't mean any harm, but by doing this they teach their kids that they don't have a right to say no, and that it is ok to ignore a no or talk someone in to physical contact. 

University vs Police Investigations

Thu, 12/11/2014 - 17:41

Could someone explain why in America sexual assualt and rapes seem to be dealt with primarily by the university or college rather than the police? When do the police and courts get involved?

University investigations

Thu, 12/11/2014 - 18:06

NLH, I don't know how frequently universities are allowed to police themselves, but I suspect that when it happens it happens most often at universities with considerable political and economic influence. It may be like the recent case of the American football player Ray Rice, who was seen on camera knocking his fiancee (now his wife) unconscious, but for whom the consequences seem to have been left to the National Football League to decide. The NFL has a lot of wealthy business people involved in its ownership and operation, and its main goal is to protect its 'brand' by aggressively trying to counter bad publicity. They may be given 'breaks' that the rest of us wouldn't get. The same could be true of certain universities, which also have a reputation to protect and have plenty of wealthy, influential people among their alumni and boards of directors.

Dear Prudence?

Fri, 12/12/2014 - 03:38

Jimerob,
Thank you for the link but Emily Yoffe has rather poor form as Dear Prudence in terms of shaming women and their sexuality so (without commenting on the individual case in your link) I'm not inclined to take her views especially seriously.

It is important to recognise that sexual assault and rape is a vastly under-reported crime in general and probably even more so if the woman involved is young and vulnerable in her first year(s) at college. False reporting of such crimes is rare.

But I still don't understand why the police don't get involved straight away. It doesn't seem as if the universities are dealing with it especially well.

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