I'm half way through Howie Gordon's memoir Hindsight and I'm loving everything about this man. Howie aka Richard Pacheco was an adult performer during the Golden Age of Porn in the late 70's. Even then there was something amiss. In Howie's own words:
"Since the rise of adult films in the 70's, it's been a cruel joke on the culture to present these hostile, vindictive male fantasies as if they are the sum total of the human experience. But that's pretty much what's happened in the absence of a broader audience. The cultural sadness is that this one narrow point of view has dominated the whole of our sexual media.
Do angry men have a right to their fantasies? Of course they do. It's not their fault that nobody else making sex movies has figured out how to make money showing a different point of view....I always thought that the preponderance of male domination was like the industry continuously shooting itself in the foot in terms of gaining any large-scale mainstream acceptance. It kept porn mired like a bad joke in the minor leagues. Common sense said that without a more balanced approach to human sexuality that would genuinely appeal to women, there would be no rise into respectability. How could there be? There was so little there to respect."
Howie hated having to dominate women in his scenes. He's the kind of man that gets off giving and receiving pleasure between equals.
If I could transport myself back in time, I would be on a porn set with Howie and we would rock it out on camera for the ages.