Laurie Penny makes a powerful point - not all men hate women BUT all men benefit from female inequality:
"After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works. Thousands of otherwise decent people are persuaded to go along with an unfair system because it’s less hassle that way. The appropriate response when somebody demands a change in that unfair system is to listen, rather than turning away or yelling, as a child might, that it’s not your fault. And it isn’t your fault. I’m sure you’re lovely. That doesn’t mean you don’t have a responsibility to do something about it."
Finally, someone has said what I've always been thinking OUT LOUD. If women were paid dollar for dollar I'd have no problem navigating a male-centric world. But it's a slap across the face like I have to be happy for the crumbs the culture scrapes off it's plate for me. And the insult added to injury is that my body is objectified for male pleasure, contraception/abortion are blocked at every turn, and I'm a whore because I have sex on my own terms.
I want more.