Because Everyone Desires Physical Contact

Thu, 07/11/2013 - 07:13
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When the NY Times covers sex surrogacy and the disabled, you know things are changing.  Who doesn't crave touch, kisses and orgasms?

For me, sex surrogacy is sacred work.  Maybe someday it will be acknowledged and decrimimalized.

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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Sat, 07/13/2013 - 00:51

I was moved by this young French woman's story and I applaud her courage in reaching out to the public for support. It's easy for legislators to declare surrogacy immoral, without considering that those most affected by the prohibition are disabled persons who may have few other options for physical intimacy. I understand that surrogacy is potentially problematic and would have to be handled with great care and respect, but it's wrong to cut off the only option some people might have for experiencing this form of closeness. I once worked professionally with a woman in a very similar situation. Although she was only in her thirties, this woman found herself living in a nursing home with people two and three times her age. She had never had an erotic relationship but very much wanted one---a desire impossible to fulfill in the inappropriate setting in which she'd been placed. She ultimately moved on to a supported apartment, where I hope she came closer to the life she wanted.

Sexual surrogacy

Sun, 07/14/2013 - 04:32

A nice film and I agree sexual surrogacy should be legal but how can disabled people afford it. Most of them are on benefits unless you're someone like Stephen Hawkins.I doubt the governments are going to increase the benefits so disabled people can pay for surrogates. I myself have no physical problems that stop me performing day to day living but have never had a relationship, sex but only rejections. I feel hopeless, discusted with myself and like a freak. I long for relationship and sex but the sex is not the point. Being accepted is the point and this means a women giving herself to me because she wants to.

Robin45 I'd love to know more about your situation.

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Fri, 07/19/2013 - 11:50
Betty Dodson

So Please write a short email explaining or fill me in here on this thread. I have some deams and ideas of how your situation might be dealt with. And now that we have The Betty A Dodson Foundation, who knows what we can acheive.  Never give up on wanting what you want until you get it.

Dr. Betty

depression and aspergers

Tue, 03/21/2017 - 09:12

I only just now come across this when looking at the post about a 23yr old aspie female. Shows how female aspies are opposite to male aspies when it comes about getting sex. For me its about exceptance and sex is the ultimate form of this. I am now 51yrs old and never had a girlfriend and sex but plenty of agonizing heart ache like when I was at college aged 19 yrs and then in group therapy. Now its dating sites full of scammers and women who expect Mr Perfect. It make matters even worst with aspergers I now have shoulder athritis. The anti depressants cause a condition where I get reduced sensation which has gradually come on in the last 6yrs although ive been on them for nearly 20yrs. I have to keep on them because the depression will get really bad. Beening innvisible to women has added to my depression. I am in a no win situation.