Betty and I are in the middle of writing the mission statement for the Betty Dodson Foundation. The purpose: to create a sex ed curriculum for kindergarten to college. This morning I received this email from a teacher in Texas who uses D&R to answer her students sex questions. So f*cking excited:
Betty & Carlin,
I've been a fan of your work for quite some time. A little background about myself: I grew up with a wonderful mother who encouraged me to explore my body and my sexuality within the safety of our home. As an adult, I teach high school band and color guard (a dance-based pageantry activity), both of which allow me to work closely with students and families for multiple years. I recently left the DC Metro Area to take a job on the Gulf Coast to turn around a struggling Texas band program. The district in which I work has no sexual education programs and does not cover basic sexuality and reproduction even in the high school health class.
Now, to the point of my email: I've recently started meeting informally with a group of female students who are desperate for knowledge about "normal" sexuality. These students make up a cross-section of the community in which I work. Most are from very poor families, some identify as bisexual, others as lesbians, and one student is a virgin but thus far has only been attracted to males.
All of them are starving for information about sex that goes beyond what they see on T.V. and I am doing my best to answer their questions honestly, often with hand-drawn sketches on the whiteboard in my office when they ask such questions as "what's a vagina?" "where does the sperm go if I don't use a condom?" "why do I need a condom?" "how does conception occur?" and "wait, girls can come, too?? how does that happen?" as well as answering honestly when they ask what I, as a young professional female, practice in my own life with the men I date.
I'm so honored that the young women I teach have found me to be the kind of educator that cares about them as individuals as well as students in my class, and am very conscious of the role I'm playing in their development. I hope to eventually direct them to your site, but for now I will continue to forge relationships as their teacher and mentor, answering their question as honestly and health-fully as I can, using your site as both a reference tool and a personal resource.
Thank you both for your work. Because of this experience with my students I'm appreciating it on a whole new level as of late!
All the best,