Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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great post!

"Accepting your body is one thing...appreciating your body is another" and "I feel so connected to myself that nothing else seems to matter.  I'm following my life path keeping my mind clear and my heart open and that's enough". I like this.
I have begun to realise the importance of inhabiting our lives in our bodies - the one we have and not the one we wished we had. That is being false to ourselves - as false as a fake orgasm to try please another.  This sounds to me like a transition from someone who has a very sexy body and a good mind to a beautiful person. Perhaps this 'self-fulness' is the basis of real beauty. If it does not come from within and at the core, understood and known by the person, the appreciation is incomplete.
I initially came to this site to try to figure out how to have an orgasm. I did not realise the extent that truth is needed to self-love. An orgasm is but one of the steps along the path to self appreciation, self-fulness. I have had my orgasms and continue to enjoy them, but now my journey is deeper - maybe my quest is to have a soul orgasm. Like what Carlin just described at the wedding -being 'in the zone', in her head and her body simulataneously, loving herself, and how that radiated to everyone around her - a soul orgasm.
Good for you Carlin!! Keep blazing your trails.

The happiness in this post is infectious ^-^  It makes me realize that I should really appreciate my body more !

I love reading your post-pill updates, and always look forward to
them!! :)  If you want to do something else for your body (and the environment), you might
consider a menstrual cup or cloth menstrual pads.  I have been reading
lately about how bad disposable menstrual products are for your body. 
It's absolutely frightening what (carcinogenic) chemicals they can get
away with putting in tampons and pads!  Kotex's response to their moldy
tampon was also alarming.  Many women (although not all) also say that
cramping and bleeding are reduced when they get away from disposables,
as some of the chemical irritants actually cause excess bleeding.  Just
food for thought.  Wonderful update!

the next steps for reclaiming my body are:

1. menstrual cup
2. temperature/mucous ovulation check as birth control

And I'll be posting all about it

I love it that you are experiencing this much joy with the process of reclaiming your body. (and letting us in on it)
Great that you mention temperature/mucous checking - it reminded me that I also wanted to start doing it as a way to tune in more to my body.
Just set the thermometer aside now, no more postponing.
Oh and I'll be looking forward to the next post!

I've been hormone free most of my life and have been having natural periods for over 30 years. Carlin's post made me want to reflect on how things have changed. I remember that before the birth of my first child, I had pretty severe cramps that I would liken to labor pains. Until I hit 40, PMS was sore breasts and lots of drama. After 40, annoying aches and pains would sometimes serve as a cue that my period was coming. Hip pain, leg pain, shoulder pain...Shoulder pain? My uterus isn't THAT high! My periods have also changed during the years, with the duration and flow ever changing. Luckily the cramps are now a dull ache from my lower abdomen running down my thighs. They used to be back pain that radiated to my abdomen and then ran down my thighs and nothing but Tylenol, a heating pad, and lying flat on my back for an hour would relieve it.
I imagine that within the next decade I will experience the joy of having extremely heavy bleeding every 3-6 months like my mother did until my periods finally stop. Aside from the bleeding, I don't think my mom had it too rough during menopause. She never complained about hot flashes and wasn't crazy moody. I won't miss the bleeding or the cramps but I will miss ovulating and feeling super sexy!
Keep exploring your periods Carlin, it's interesting to see your perspective on it.

"the next steps for reclaiming my body are:

1. menstrual cup
2. temperature/mucous ovulation check as birth control

And I'll be posting all about it"

EXCITING!

I really hope you'll have a good experience with a menstrual cup. They sound so awesome, and there are so many benefits to it, but they just seem to give some girls a bit of trouble.

I think they're DEFINITELY worth it though.

I think, as a guy, it's so interesting to learn about periods. It's something women have really gone to extreme lengths to keep hidden and shameful about themselves that i wish they wouldn't. I mean, I realize it's the greater culture that's making them feel that way.. but I really just don't see the big deal. It's fascinating. It's natural...

The period-taboo is all part of the larger problem, I guess, but I think it's so great to see you tackling this and making it all so real and accessible for all of us to experience with you. <3 

I press the like button on that!