Carlin Ross's blog

The Next Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 09/14/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Fall 2017 on these dates. It's a two day workshop:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

The Range of Vulva Styles

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 13:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Classical Vulva
Gothic Vulva
Modern Vulva
Renaissance Vulva
Baroque Vulva
The Heart Vulva

Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.

Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.  Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart.

Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images for their educational content.  Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women and men. 

Terje Brought Pansexuality to Us All

Thu, 12/07/2017 - 10:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty and Terje

This past week we lost a champion of sex and wonderful soul, Terje Gammelsrud. 

His magazine, Cupido, was everything I always wanted...beautiful, authentic images of sexual expression inclusive of gender, orientation, and preference.  I remember the first time I thumbed through Cupido.  It was a journey.  Sex acts and people of every persuasion titilated by senses and I found myself drawn to specific pages that I never thought I would find stimulating.  That was his art - he presented democratic sex that left the reader more compassionate and self aware than they were before experiencing his magazine.

Terje and Cupido were pansexual before we knew what that was...he was one of the greats. 

I Love Her Face

Tue, 11/28/2017 - 08:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I caught this recent photo of Isabella Rossellini and was totally enamored.  I love her wrinkles.  It's so rare that you get to see a natural face in Hollywood that she's a breath of fresh air.

As I start to see the signs of age on my face, there's this pull to plump out my lips and tighten the skin under my eyes.  I say, "fuck it".  The most feminist thing I can do is age. 

I'm a middle-aged mom looking at the next milestone: fifty and I'm going to celebrate every wrinkle.

Betty Dodson Presents: My Orgasm

Tue, 11/21/2017 - 16:06
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We just released our latest dvd on amazon Betty Dodson Presents: My Orgasm.

There's over 3 hours of content. Five women share their masturbation practice, including me, and one lesbian couple shares their partner sex.

About 3 years go, I decided to film myself illustrating all of Betty's orgasm techniques after a messy break up. I figured pouring my heart into conscious masturbation and sharing the deepest parts of myself would be the healing I needed and it was - it was so hot that Betty and our cameraperson decided to masturbate on film too. Sex positive energy is contagious.

Bodysex is the Heart of Our Work

Thu, 11/16/2017 - 10:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Every season Betty and I talk about retiring the workshops so we can spend more time raising money for the foundation and planning an exhibition of Betty's art. Without fail, we come to the same realization: Bodysex is the healing and we need to train more women to be run groups.

Bodysex is the heart of our work.

Lady Madonna

Thu, 11/02/2017 - 15:34
Submitted by Carlin Ross

In a recent interview, Paul McCartney shared that this 1965 National Geographic image was the inspiration behind the song, Lady Madonna:

“Sometimes you see pictures of mothers and you go: ‘she’s a good mother’. You could just tell there’s a bond and it just affected me, that photo. So I was inspired to write Lady Madonna, my song, from that photo.”

It's so rare that we see strong imagery of motherhood.  The connection between this mother and the baby at her breast and the boy smiling up at her - there's nothing more moving or powerful. 

Sharing Orgasms Keeps Our Partnership Going

Wed, 10/25/2017 - 14:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Last June we announced Betty's retirement from Bodysex. A few months went by and we started having second thoughts. The groups feed Betty...emotionally...intellectually...sexually. The retreat really solidified our decision: we'd run groups in the Fall.

When your business partner is 88 years old, you know that they'll be a moment, a passing of the torch. You cling to denial but can't escape the reality of aging. When I look at our old youtube clips, I can see how I've aged over 9 years. So many things have changed and so many things have stayed the same. Our relationship has grown so deep that it transcends "family".

Dear Catcallers

Fri, 10/06/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Noa Jansma was sick and tired of being harassed and catcalled on her way to class so she decided to do what any self-respected millenial would do: start an instagram account.

@dearcatcallers is a series of selfies featuring Noa with her catcallers.  They all kind of have the same look on their faces.  It's a mix of "I'm being naughty" and "I'm a loser" with a dash of delinquency.  And most of them are old men oggling a 20 year old girl that could be there daughter but I guess that's the allure. 

When young men start posting selfies with their cougar harassers, we'll know that women too have the freedom to be aggressors.

An Interactive Map of Sheela Na Gigs

Fri, 09/29/2017 - 09:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Researchers have put together an interactive map of Sheela Na Gigs in Western Europe.  These graven images of older women pulling open their vulvas adorned churches and places of worship in Medieval times and harken back to ancient Egypt. 

It's not surprising that most of these reliefs were taken down and put in church basements like the image I've attached here (it's why so many of them have survived).  The prevailing thought was that Sheela Na Gigs were created as warnings against human lust.  I guess if you were a gay priest full frontal would seem like an admonition against sex. 

The Joy Radiates From This Image

Wed, 09/06/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We are surrounded by so much pain.  From natural disasters (hurricanes and wild fires) to suffering caused by the hand of man (the fires in Oregon and the repeal of DACA). 

When I'm feeling down, I click on my desk top file folder "retreat pics" and gaze at this image.  I remember the love, joy, beauty and pleasure that can be achieved when we love ourselves. 

Thought I'd share it with you.

Here Comes the Pleasure Revolution

Fri, 08/25/2017 - 07:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty Dodson 1975

There are several media pieces coming out about the Bodysex Summit and Betty's life work. We didn't plan it but somehow interest in Bodysex, the certification program, Betty's 88th birthday and her upcoming episode on Broad City = some pretty amazing press.

This article ran yesterday on iNews and it's pretty amazing. Here are my favorite quotes (and they chose all the best pics):

“Betty started the dialogue by insisting that the clitoris is a woman’s primary sex organ,” says Ross. “Words like ‘masturbation’ and ‘clitoris’ trend with the release of her feminist classic Liberating Masturbation.”