Carlin Ross's blog

The Next Bodysex Workshops

Sat, 03/18/2017 - 09:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Spring 2017 on these dates:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

The Range of Vulva Styles

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 13:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Classical Vulva
Gothic Vulva
Modern Vulva
Renaissance Vulva
Baroque Vulva
The Heart Vulva

Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.

Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.  Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart.

Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images for their educational content.  Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women and men. 

Amber Rose's Bush Shot is Feminism

Fri, 06/16/2017 - 08:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Amber Rose posted this full bush shot to her instagram account in support of her branded Slut Walk.  Of course, instagram removed it and I really had to dig to find an unpixelated copy.

I'm not sure why breasts aren't obscene but bush is - you can't even see anything.  "White" feminists called her out for displaying nudity and undermining the cause.  For the record, I'm white and a feminist and I fucing love Amber's bush shot.

Megan Jayne Crabbe Found Beauty in the Softness

Tue, 06/13/2017 - 07:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I stumbled across Megan Jayne Crabbe's instagram page Body Positive Power and I fell in love.

Above are two pictures of Megan - a before and after her battle with anorexia.  Her message: you can love the body you have now and fuck our diet culture.  She posts pictures and amazing dancing-in-her-panties videos with her giggling rolls of softness:

After doing about 40 Bodysex workshops, I can say that I appreciate all body types.  There's beauty in every dimple, scar, and softness is very appealing (just as much as taut muscle).

Betty's Group Sex Interview in NY Times 1971

Sun, 06/11/2017 - 14:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, John, for sending me the link to Group Sex: Is it 'Life Art' or A Sign Something is Wrong.  This article ran in 1971 at the onset of the Sexual Revolution.  Betty is interviewed and quoted.  Here are some of my favorite Bettyisms:

When I got divorced in 1965, I decided to find out everything I could about sexuality,” she said. “I set about letting go of jealousy and possessive feelings, and understanding I could love more than one person. It was the most important thing I ever did.”

Beauty, Strength, Vulnerability & $100M+ at the Box Office

Mon, 06/05/2017 - 07:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Wonder Woman has raked in over $100M in its opening weekend - the highest for any superhero film ever.

Gal Gadot is Wonder Woman incarnate and bad ass in real life.  She's Israeli and worked as a combat trainer.  And she was 5 months pregnant with her second child when she did her reshoots.  The director, Patty Jenkins, knew that she wanted to display strength and vulnerability in her character:

"I’m tired of sincerity being something we have to be afraid of doing. It’s been like that for 20 years, that the entertainment and art world has shied away from sincerity, real sincerity, because they feel they have to wink at the audience because that’s what the kids like. We have to do the real stories now. The world is in crisis.

Bodysex Builds Compassion

Thu, 05/25/2017 - 14:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When we book the workshops, I try to book 8 women in each group but there's always one workshop that's underbooked, one that's overbooked, and one that's perfect. This past weekend's group was our overbooked workshop.

We had women from all over the United States - one native New Yorker - and future bodysex leaders from Israel and Canada. More importantly, we had our first mother daughter attendees. I didn't clear it with Betty when I booked them but somehow I knew that it was going to work.

Remembering My Journey

Wed, 05/17/2017 - 15:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Thanksgiving 2001

As women, I think it's easy to forget our journey. Careers, motherhood and the constant barage of life duties and expectations keep you locked down in the present. Sometimes you need to spend an hour or two answering questions about your life story to remember.

We're finally moving forward with a documentary on Betty with a trusted producer. We don't have any creative control but feel confident that they understand who Betty is and the relevance of her work. It was totally inconvenient but I spent last Saturday, under the lights in full makeup, describing how I ended up on Betty Dodson's door step.

Sophie Emma Rose Normalized Breastfeeding Your Toddler

Thu, 05/11/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I remember the first time I viewed this video.  Grayson wasn't even a thought back then but it made a huge impression on me.  Sophie Joy and her son Shay seemed so happy and healthy.  There was something so real and touching about her and the relationship she had with her son. 

Last week Sophie Joy was killed in a motorcylce accident in Thailand.  Our hearts go out to her family.  Her loss is felt throughout the world.  As I was breastfeeding Grayson this morning (he's two years old now), I kept thinking of Sophie and Shay.

The French First Couple is Perfection

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Emmanuel Macron is the new President of France.  Not only is he the youngest president in history (39), but here he is with his 64 year-old wife, Brigette Macron, his former teacher whom he met when he was 15 years old. 

Thankfully, he defeated his conservative opponent whose platform including leaving the EU and limiting immigration though she never proposed builing a wall around Paris.

Can you imagine this happening in America?  We'd freak out if an older, richer woman entered the White House side-by-side with her much younger husband as President elect.  Politics is different in France. 

Betty & Jackie

Wed, 05/03/2017 - 08:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this image of Betty sitting in front of her fire place - her altar - with Jackie above the mantle.  Jackie was part of her Masturbating Nudes exhibition that followed her Love Picture exhibition.  It was a total flop and Betty left the art world for feminism.

Jackie hangs in my bedroom.

Cellulite + Self-Managed Abortion = Hallmark Day for Women

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been waiting for some celebrity with curves to release an ass shot with no photoshopping displaying her cellulite in all its glory and it's finally happened.  This week Kim K posted this image to her Instagram account.  100,000 people - I'm assuming men - stopped following her and there's been a media storm over it.

If you have curves, you have cellulite dimples.  Women aren't plastic dolls.  Flesh has movement.  The more flesh you have the more dimples and movement.  I used to spend hours looking at my ass in the mirror trying to smooth out every cellulite dimple with hours of cardio.  The only time I was dimple free was when I was on a week juice cleanse with daily colonics.  Having Grayson cured me of my cellulite obsession.