I Sometimes Experience Bad Cramps in My Lower Tummy After Sex

Mon, 06/08/2015 - 07:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr Betty,

I sometimes experience really bad cramps in my lower tummy after sex, especially when it's been a little rough. It can be very painful and my partner is worried that he did something wrong, however i very much enjoy rough sex. Should i avoid it altogether if my body reacts negatively to it after? Maybe i jump too fast from slow to rough sex?

Thank you for your answer!

Dear A,

I have no idea what you mean by "rough sex" other than the guy bangs into you hard and fast. Most likely he is slamming into your cervix or mouth of the uterus. Although there are not a lot of nerve ending there, if it's sore then STOP doing it. The time I had this problem was with a lover who had a very large penis and a botched circumcision which meant he wasn't getting much sensation during vaginal fucking. My advice is to STOP doing anything that results in pain.

It's my opinion that gals who like "rough sex" have never fully experienced the more subtle pleasures of having an orgasm. So the drama of a hard fuck is at least something. It''s also big in porn. I suggest you develop a partner sex style that includes gentle stimulation of your clitoris with lots of lube during a slow sensuous fuck that takes you slowly to a full body orgasm. Pain is always a sign that we are doing something that our body doesn't like. Listen to it and change.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Hi Betty This is an answer,

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Mon, 02/27/2017 - 14:44

Hi Betty This is an answer, and it could be whats giving her the pains shes getting, its called a stuck orgasm, so to my answer.

just been doing an answer on yes a stuck orgasm, doing a bit more research found this out, a stuck orgasm comes from not being relaxed, if your relaxed, it lets any orgasm or multi orgasms flow away through your body, that's why its best to just lie back and enjoy the moment.

Does this help?