I'm Probably a Nympho & My Husband Isn't Interested in Sex

Sun, 03/31/2013 - 09:17
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years. He is 33 an I'm 26 and I have really loved our sex life! Every year though the quantity had diminished sadly for me. My husband was the first man I ever had sex with and I guess I got lucky in that the sex has always been really good. We are only having sex about 1 every three or so months now..... I can't really come I. To my husband either because his rejection hurts even though he claims he is lazy or very tired from work (understandably he works 12-18 hrs a day)

Am I needing to be more considerate? Or should I find other ways /people to fulfill my needs and improve my confidence? I some times play with toys etc when we are in bed together because I knew he had no interest and I needed release. (I'm probably a nympho tbh) Thanks for any comments/ advice.

Dear J,

From my point of view, getting married at 21 is a bit too soon. The one thing that no one tells us is that after a few years of living together, the "Happily Ever After" part begins to fade. Sexual interest, especially for men, needs variety. He's hard wired to sow his oats and while women would like to do the same, society prohibits it. Thanks to the sexual double standard, he'll be seen as a virile man and you'll be condemned as a "Slut".

As you stated, you can fill in with masturbation but since you are still so young, it's only natural that you would be interested in having sex with some one else. You do not qualify as being a nympho! Just a sex hungry very young married woman with a healthy sexual appetite. However, in defense of your husband, 18 hour work days do not leave much time for sexual pleasure, so keep that in mind.

Maybe you can discuss the idea of sex outside your marriage with hubby and agree to have a night off to date other guys every so often. My girlfriend says that every time her boyfriend thinks she might be having an affair, he becomes far more interested in her sexually. All those simplistic romantic fairy tales are BS. Most men thrive on competition and competing sperm just like the apes. Let me know how you solve this sexual disparity. It's a universal problem for nearly all couples.

Dr Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time