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This is an email from a friend of mine living in China. It's quite interesting to put the shoe on the other foot. He feels he's been date raped by women. I guess it could happen but this is the first time I've considered it as a possibility. I figured the guy would just lose his erection but this has been his experience:

"hi BAD! Rob here, in China.

I saw your latest video and I have a suggestion. Maybe you’ve been over it already? But how about proposing that men learn to massage a woman? Give her a slow, thorough, attentive rub-down? In my mind, it’s a complete act, start-to-finish, all-inclusive. Everything a union should be, don’t you agree? Nothing else needed but a strong pair of hands (and fingers), maybe a little oil, and some enthusiasm. I’d even propose that the man concentrate only on the woman’s pleasure. A man should take it upon himself to be sure that his lady’s needs are met.

Has anyone ever realized that men are simply not taught how to do their job? No training, except in unrealistic and bad theatrics, aka “porn”? How about a real instructional form of training for men, how to take care of your lady’s needs, how to basically do your “job”? A man’s gotta do, what a man’s gotta do, and what a man’s gotta do is to take care of his lady’s needs, however capricious and selfish women are, and they sure are! I’ve done just this more times than I care to remember – carefully attend to the relaxation and stimulation of a needy, frustrated, agitated female, but instead of mere gratitude, the women threaten me more often than not.

They threaten to assault me and have their way with me, should I fail to comply with their demands for their instant gratification – “I want IT, and I want it NOW!!!”, can’t you just hear a frustrated and needy woman roaring that after I give her a nice rub-down? When I see that “look” come over a stimulated woman’s face, I tremble with dread, not knowing just where it might lead! Poor little me, it’s sad to think of such a scene – an angry woman exploiting me so that she can have relief and feel better, all at my expense, and with no regard, whatsoever, for my needs as a man, the other half of the equation.

But I count for nothing when a woman is after what she knows she wants. Most of the time they order me around like their flunky as the act commences, they mount me, whirl and gyrate themselves on top of me, sliding and slapping against my loins as they dig further down, pushing me deep inside them, swirling me around in their hungry and cavernous, needy orifices, and using me for their own pleasure, hardly noticing, let alone even caring about my own pleasure or needs.

It’s pure abuse and contempt for the mutual needs of the man, I tell you! They even bark out demands and outright commands – “not yet! I’m not finished”. Women can be so selfish and neglectful of a man’s needs, I suppose it’s just the burden I must bear as a man, don’t you agree?

I suppose it’s my fate and lot in life, that I must just lie passively, and let women do their sordid business on my poor little body, lying there and being exploited by these vociferous, overbearing, and inconsiderate, boorish women. But then, they do have their needs, don’t they? Anyway, whaddaya think about men simply giving women a thorough massage?"

Best, Rob

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