Hello Dr. Betty,
I'm coming to you with a problem many women might have. I am a 22 year old woman and my partner fails to acknowledge my need to foreplay before we go straight into sex and penetration. And when he does make an attempt to play with my clitoris or go down on me..it's just rough and not pleasurable. NUMEROUS times i have tried to explain what and how i like it and he just shuts me down and says "i know what im doing.. i know what to do.. let me do it"..
There's been times when i just get so frustrated and out of the mood that i just fake the pleasure. What are other ways to show and teach him if he remains stubborn that he is doing it "right" ???
He sounds like the type of dude you need to hit in the head with a baseball bat just to get his attention. Since you have verbalized what you want and need for your own orgasms during sex with him and he argues with you claiming he knows it all, he's demonstrated that he is not teachable.
Your part in this is that every time you fake pleasure he's convinced that he's right because you pretend what he's doing works!
Unless you can be more forceful in communicating, I'd simply chalk this one up to one of life's lessons and find a more open-minded boyfriend that you can be honest with at all times about what pleases you. Let this one go choke on his own ego! Back in Kansas we'd call this situation "Beating a dead horse!"