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Dr. Betty

My counselor referred me to you as someone who might have some insight into a question I asked her. My wife can have "small" orgasms, but when she gets aroused her fingers and toes go numb, like she has lost all feeling in them. This is very distracting and tends to hijack any further pleasure. None of her doctors have had any helpful advice. She has other health issues that may or may not be playing a role. Any thoughts on good resources who might be able to help us with this?
Thanks.

Dear P,

With next to no knowledge about your wife's over all health, her age and other information that might be pertinent, I can only make a few guesses. I'd start with how is she breathing as she heads toward an orgasm? Rapid equal gasps or holding her breath or something else different? Loss of sensation in fingers and toes might indicate she is hyper-ventilating which will cause numbness in our extremities. How is her overall circulation? Does she do some form of exercise that uses her lung capacity or is she relatively sedentary? I always recommend Yoga postures that incorporate breathing with movement. How we move and breathe during orgasm sessions is very important. Good luck in solving her mystery.

Dr. Betty

Thanks so much for your reply. My wife is 41, and is physically active (swims and does heated Vinyasa Yoga). She has Meniere's Syndrome. She has not had the vertigo spells associated with Meniere's recently, most likely due to histamine shots she takes for that. However, she does have hearing loss. She tends to feel cold, especially in her extremeties, so I guess one could say her overall circulation is not great. She tends to be potassium deficient. How can we get more details on Yoga postures you might recommend, and improving breathing and movement during orgasm sessions?

Thank you again.

P

Dear A,

I just spent some time reading about Meniere's Syndrome: "A disorder of the inner ear that can affect hearing and balance to a varying degree. It is characterized by episodes of vertigo, low pitched tinnitus, and hearing loss." First time I've ever heard of this problem.

It seems that small orgasms would be the least of her concerns. It sounds as though she is doing all the right things, so this might be more your concern than hers. Any woman can improve the strength of her orgasms by using a quality vibrator held on or near her clitoris. She would need to have the controls, not you. I recommend the Mystic Wand vibrator that operates with batteries. As for more information on Yoga poses for sex, they are all beneficial but I don't know of any specific ones for bigger orgasms. Given what she must deal with her inner ear problem, I would take all the pressure off her to have bigger, better, longer lasting orgasms. Why don't you work on improving your orgasms instead.

Dr. Betty

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