Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I've seen a lot of porn flix over the years, and I purposely avoid the ones in which women are humiliated.
I hate seeing a woman on her knees in front of a man.  I don't much care for women doing blows either.
Blows have never really done it for me.  Maybe I'm weird, but I think it would be humiliating for a woman to blow a man.
I've never asked any woman to do that.  There have been some who volunteered to do so, and it felt good, but not so good that I have to have it. 
I just don't like to see anyone humiliated for the sake of "fun".  Whose fun anyway?
I would never do anything to anyone which I consider to be humiliating.  I treat my wife like she's the queen of the planet.  I was always good to all her predecessors too.
I always let them finish their orgasm before I kicked them to the curb.
On the other hand; and if this makes me hypocritical, so be it..............
I love giving oral to a woman.  Sometimes I would almost rather do that than fuck.
Go figure..........

I don't really know why coming on a woman's face should be interesting. As a man who enjoys good porn but hates a lot of the disgusting shit that is put out there, I don't look for cum-on-face in porn and I find it puzzling when I see it. I don't mind people who do like it. Some women say they like it, which shows just how much of a personal preference it is. It's polarizing. It just doesn't turn me on. So I skip it.
However that is not to say that I don't find ejaculating on someone sexy. I find that ejaculating on a woman's pussy can be incredibly hot, whether watching it or doing it. I am also partial to ejaculating on my wife's breasts after a tit fuck, not because of the act itself but because she told me just how much it turns her on to be used in that way. Knowing it turns her on and seeing the look in her eyes, mm, yeah, that does it for me.
So the face thing, no thanks.

It never came to my mind to ejaculate on a woman. What is so exciting? It is sticky and there is a characteristic smell associated with it, which is simply does not fit when wanting to have a good time with a partner. On top when considering all the mood change after ejaculating, clearly there is a problem, at least for me. I am feeling best when I am able to not to ejaculate, never go beyond the point of no return, yet being highly excited so the heart goes fast and my brain and body is feeling good.   
  

BorderRiver, I love performing oral sex on men. It's a real turn on for me. I enjoy it most when I want to do it though. Having my shoulders pushed down towards a mans crutch,or his penis shoved down my throat is degrading. Nor do I like being come on. Maybe it is my perception of it having seen it in porn but it doesn't make me feel sexy.

My libido occassionally likes to see women humiliated and it turns me on to be humiliated too. It's all part of a healthy varied diet of consentual sex, sexual fantasy and role play, that's as different from real humiliation as a disaster movie is from a real disaster. 

Not only does porn depict this as the norm it depicts it as something we should enjoy and get a lot out of.  It is sending the wrong signals.  And there is a lot of porn that does not show the man going down on the woman at all.  Instead it suggests that we should be satisfied with hard thrusting and then being covered in god know what.  Thanks a bunch!

I've had girlfriends who really enjoyed performing oral sex, and one who liked to swallow at times, too. This was always her choice, of course. I enjoy performing oral sex on my partners very much as well. But 'facials' always seemed like a pointless, commercial-porn thing to me. They've always seemed disrespectful to me---they remind me of a dog marking its territory. If a woman and her partner truly enjoy them, though, that's their business.

I agree with Patrick.  But to my mind there is a huge difference between being treated as a lamp post in dog like fashion and passionately taking someone in your mouth and swallowing their fluids which can be over so intimate.

I don't find the act of a "facial" humiliating, but I don't really get why it's a turn on for some people. But that's the wonderful thing about sexuality, different things float different boats. As for BorderReiver's comments, giving a blow job does not have to be humiliating for a woman. The way it is depicted in porn sometimes looks humiliating, and I find that really distasteful, but as Betty says, porn is not sex ed. I really don't understand the porn that shows women gagging. What is appealing to anybody about gagging or seeing someone gag? 
There is nothing more erotic to me than using my tongue and lips to give my man pleasure, and I love it when he comes in my mouth. If someone tried to make me do it against my will, of course I would find that unacceptable.

When my girlfriend is on her knees giving me a blowjob (and that is, of course, only one of many positions for a blowjob), I do not feel powerful and dominant.  She is there voluntarily.  And it is a convenient position for a blowjob.  I feel very loving and intimate with her there, and she is showing me that she is wanting to give me pleasure (which she certainly does).
Likewise, when I am on my knees with my face and tongue on her pussy, I do not feel the least bit humuliated.  She is not trying to exhibit power over me, even when she holds my ears to guide me to where she wants me (which I thoroughly love), but she is enjoying the sensations that I am trying to provide to her.  I am enjoying the sensations that I am receiving, as well as those that I hope she is receiving.
As far as ejaculating on her, I do really enjoy that.  And no, I can't explain why.  It is obviously a visual thing, and I am very visual in sex.  I also love to come in her mouth, which obviously is not visual.  
Personally, I like to use all of the senses in sex, and that includes the smells and tastes.
I agree with Collette that everyone has different likes and dislikes.  The key, as always, is communication, and acceptance of what each is and is not comfortable with.  And being open minded and willing to try things is also important.  If you haven't tried something, you can't know for sure that you wouldn't like it.  I don't think that my girlfiend and I have ever asked to try something where the other refused.  Sometimes it takes a while to work up to it, and sometimes after we try it, we decide it is not for one or both of us.  But more times than not, we realize a wonderful new activity that gives us great pleasure.  But we always are willing to try things.

I think this is a case of to each his/her own. I personally detest the gagging blow jobs as seen on porn and think facials are gross. But, if my husband accidently gave me a facial, he would freak out more than I would.

• If a woman finds facials degrading, then it's degrading.
• If a woman finds facials OK, then it's OK.

The same argument applies to everything, masturbation, sex, pornography... etc etc

I think that the reason why "facials" are popular in porn is the idea that women like his seman so much that they wouldn't mind being covered in it. The idea is not "I think less of you" but rather "you like my seman so much that you just want it on you"
Now, obviously that isn't a fetish that most women have. And no man should do it to a woman who doesn't want it done. But I don't think it is fair to say that it is a humiliation tool (though I can understand how people might see it that way) when in reality I think that guys like it because it is a symbol of the women's attraction to them. I don't always find it attractive, and sometimes find it a turn off, but I don't find it automatically disrespectful to a woman unless you do it to someone who doesn't want to, but that is true for all sex acts.