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My Orgasms Fizzled Out

Wed, 05/30/2012 - 09:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am learning to masturbate at 58yrs. of age and have purchased your excellent step by step instructions on how to go about it.  I have only been trying for about 12 months and so far have achieved some very nice orgasms right at the beginning (using a vibrator and your Barbell) but they have now fizzled out.

I have felt nice feelings now and then and am not aware of doing anything different but have not felt an orgasm for a few months. Do you have any advice or suggestions about where I may be going wrong please? I have learned such a lot from your web site and am very grateful to you for all your help.

Thankyou.

Yours sincerely
P

Dear P,

Great news that you are now orgasmic as 58. Congratulations! Just remember that the experience of orgasm is still new. Chances are good that you began to expect more than what is now happening. It's only been a year and that's not much time in a lifetime of no sexual response. Go back and read those basic steps again.

And don't expect your orgasms to get bigger, better and stronger right away. I'll bet your expectations got ahead of your experiences. So don't be greedy and count your blessings. Your orgasms will grow organically like a flower.

Dr. Betty

We Suggest: 
First Time Orgasm
Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique
Learn to Orgasm in Four Acts (eBook)
Awakening the Clitoris
Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Orgasms after 50

Wed, 05/30/2012 - 12:39
mj

You might also consider trying a little estrogen and/or progesterone cream to help the process along. I use both. These can be purchased OTC, or by prescription from your GYN if you prefer. I've noticed a satisfying increase in the strength of my orgasms as a result, among other benefits.

post menopause

Wed, 05/30/2012 - 21:56
Collette

I am post menopausal and I find sometimes I come very easily, other times it takes longer and takes more effort. Definitely don't have the response I did when I was younger. I have found anal stimulation to be very helpfu.l as well as my Mystic Wand and other toys. 
I think if I had learned to masturbate at a younger age, I would know more and it would be easier now that I am post menopause. But I didn't, so I work with what I have. I don't always come during partner sex, but I enjoy the experience a lot and don't worry about whether or not I come.

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