Dear Dr. Betty,
I am learning to masturbate at 58yrs. of age and have purchased your excellent step by step instructions on how to go about it. I have only been trying for about 12 months and so far have achieved some very nice orgasms right at the beginning (using a vibrator and your Barbell) but they have now fizzled out.
I have felt nice feelings now and then and am not aware of doing anything different but have not felt an orgasm for a few months. Do you have any advice or suggestions about where I may be going wrong please? I have learned such a lot from your web site and am very grateful to you for all your help.
Great news that you are now orgasmic as 58. Congratulations! Just remember that the experience of orgasm is still new. Chances are good that you began to expect more than what is now happening. It's only been a year and that's not much time in a lifetime of no sexual response. Go back and read those basic steps again.
And don't expect your orgasms to get bigger, better and stronger right away. I'll bet your expectations got ahead of your experiences. So don't be greedy and count your blessings. Your orgasms will grow organically like a flower.