as much as sex has a big part in my life (in theory and practice), i understand that there are people who have little or no interest in sex. mostly those people are pressured that they have any psychological or physical problem and they should take care of it. their way of desire or even non-desire are pathologized.
as a lesbian/pansexual identified person i fight for more respect and anti-discrimination. i found that asexuals have a very small voice and are also within the LGBTI-community not accepted. a friend of mine who identifies as a homoromantic lesbian (means she has no desire of having sex but having a lesbian relationship with a non-sexual kind of body contact) has a lot of difficulties to come out to her environment, because of the pathologization i described before. i write articles and try to support her in any way i can, because i think: people should have the freedom to choose to have or not to have sex and also to find their own right way of having sex.
you are a very wise woman, betty so i wanted to know what your thoughts on asexuality are. i think that we - how say "better sexlife - better world" should also support those who say NO! to sex.
i am looking forward to reading your opinion on this topic.
Of course I would support a person who chooses not to have sex with another person. I would hope they would include sex with themselves at least. It seems to me that there is so much asexuality already in existence via celibacy vows, abstinence only standing in for sex ed, and long term monogamous marriages that will eventually shut most people down sexually, it's just never captured my interest to any degree. However, it's my opinion that asexuality is not advisable nor is it all that healthy. A man will have wet dreams as will a woman when they are sleeping. Avoiding orgasms seems as foolish to me as deciding we can never sneeze, blow our noses or ever fart. Having an orgasm is just part of being human.
My question to you is why are you so interested in this and concerned that asexual people don't have a voice? Good grief, you need look no further than the GOP idiots running for president now. Most are about as asexual as you can get. And with all the fundamental religions demanding abstinence, virginity, purity, and monogamy, I'd say asexuality is booming for women. Just not for men who have sex with fallen women, you know, the whore, slut or prostitute. We would do better putting our energy behind getting rid of the sexual double standard. Wouldn't you agree with that?