Over the past few months you have become a role model for me; I am a 16 year old girl and I have been sexually active for roughly four years; I masturbate regularly and enjoy a healthy sex life. Recently I have gotten into a monogamous relationship and up until a few days ago, he still maintained his virginity. My problem stems from his lack of "self love" as he does not, nor has he ever, masturbated. I am very liberal when it comes to sex acts, and we have tried everything Betty; but he still can't have an orgasm. We've tried regular hand jobs, vaginal intercourse, anal, sensual/sexual massages, and blow jobs; but the blow jobs are taking up to 40 or 60 minutes and I'm struggling to please him. I have never had a difficultly pleasing men, so I am wondering if you have any advice for me?
I hope your sexual activity at 12 was masturbation. I didn't get into vaginal sex with a partner until I was 20. But I did make out with my boyfriends in parked cars when I lived in Wichita. I thought "auto erotic" meant kissing with hand jobs in a car.
I'm sorry to hear about the struggles you're having with this young man. At 16 I think you should ask yourself why are you with him and why is it so important to please him? Obviously the two of you are not sexually compatible. Unless you want to be his sex therapist which I don't recommend. He needs to practice masturbation and you really can't do that for him. Make sure your ego is not running this show to prove to yourself you can get every man off. Work without pay is alienating. My advice would be to move along and be with some guy who is more your sexual equal.