I'm Afraid Female Circumcision Has Left Me Numb

Sat, 02/04/2012 - 09:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I had FGM when i was 12, now i'm 22 and never had any kind of sexual experience in my life, never been touched by a guy, i'm afraid i won't feel anything. i tried masturbating and there's nothing, it's ticklish down there but no pleasure at all. I have part of my clitrois left..there's a very small part left.

Where i live (egypt) there's nothing such as reconstructive surgery..so is there any advice on how i can have a normal sex life?? or at least a satisfying sex life? i know you met many women who had FGM and maybe you have some advice for me.

Dear R,

Fortunately the clitoris is a much larger organ than the tip of the glans which is what we can see on the outside. The clitoris is quite extensive. Here's a link to me drawing the internal clitoris.

However, if you can feel "ticklish" I assume there are enough nerve endings left so the clitoris will work for you. Begin by regular sessions of masturbation so you can get past the ticklish sensation. That just indicates that it hasn't been touched enough. Be gentle and use some organic oil like coconut. Spend some time like 10 minutes rubbing your clitoris on a regular basis until it becomes accustomed to being touched.

That's when the tickle turns into a sexual sensation that will grow stronger. It would be great if you could get a small battery vibrator. So far the best we have found is the We vibe that sells the Tango. You could order one from our sex shop online if you have a credit card or a paypal account. It comes with it's own recharger so you don't even have to buy batteries. Let me know what happens after you explore your sex organ more carefully under a bright light and include regular 10 minute sessions of massage.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Betty's right, I know someone

Sat, 02/04/2012 - 13:02
Jake E

Betty's right, I know someone who is able to exite deep into the shaft of the clitoris using a vibrator to achieve orgasm. Rubbing the shaft of the penis rather than the end is the classic way most men masturbate. Good luck R

Another vibe option

Mon, 02/06/2012 - 17:11

If you aren't able to order the vibrator Betty suggests from Egypt, and there aren't stores with that type of thing there, try other things.  One of my favorite vibes is an inexpensive electric toothbrush!  I don't use the bristles, just the side of the head.  or, you can cover it with a piece of fabric to make it softer.  Good luck to you!