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Are The Stories About Vaginal Wall Muscle Control True?

Sun, 01/15/2012 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

I have heard about women who have enough control of their vaginal wall muscles that they can shoot ping-pong balls out. I have heard about a Korean/Chinese/Japanese adult show where a gal can insert a peeled banana and asks a guy how many pieces he wants it broken into and proceeds to do it while it is inside. Is this really possible? I can barely feel my wife's muscles contract when she reaches orgasm but she does not have good muscle control anywhere on her body. One guy posted something his girlfriend does on a dick that she can give the equivalent of a hand job with her vulva. I would guess that pelvic floor exercises (Kegels) may help out on this front. Are these shows/rumors true? How do I get my wife interested in doing these, for both my pleasure and hers?

Dear T,

These stories are true for the most part. In Amsterdam, I watched a sex show where a woman performer smoked a cigar with her vagina. Yes, the ping pong balls and fancy fucking are true of women who have developed their vaginal muscles. As for getting your wife to do anything related to sex, lots of luck. If I had the answer to that one, I most likely would have retired to a sun drenched Island and painted my life away. You could buy my vaginal Barbell as a gift that describes how to practice doing the exercise, but she might take is as a criticism and pout for days, months, etc.and you will never get any knookie again.

If you decide to communicate, begin the conversation with a compliment about how much you love this or that about her in bed. Then have the same conversation with her that we just had. Treat is as a curiosity not a demand. If it doesn't work, you can fantasize about a woman "milking your dick" until you shoot while masturbating.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Sun, 01/15/2012 - 17:23
WildOrchid

If she decides she'd like stronger PC muscles (it would be great for her orgasms - not just your own enjoyment), check out electro-stimulation. It requires far less work and time and the pay-off is amazing. You can buy a small Tens unit (ask around on fetish forums for instructions) or just go ahead with Jopen Intensity (a rabit vibe with electrodes). It's not cheap but it works.

EDIT: you should try the e-stim too. Good PC muscles are fun for all. 

Tens machine

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 11:10
mayward

Wildorchid,
What is done with tens machines? I'm really curious or which forum would you find out?

TENS

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Tue, 01/17/2012 - 12:51
WildOrchid

They are used to shock the muscles into contracting and releasing. On the low setting they just help you exercise the muscles (think those butterfly-things sold on TV). Higher settings might be painful but there are quite a few electro-sex enthusiasts who enjoy it.
I've suggested that because they can do the exercises for you and in a more efficient manner at that. 
I recommend those two guides and the e-stim forum on the same site. As for devices I'd start with a small portable device that already comes with a probe (like the first one on this site) or Jopen Intensity rabbit. There is also a quite good and cheap e-stim set called Fetish Fantasy Series Shock therapy but it comes with a set of pads - not a probe. Fetish Fantasy Series Shock therapy pleasure probe on the other hand has few settings and mixed reviews. You could buy both sets and use the better controller with the probe. (They are available on Eden Fantasys - the shop that is affiliated with D&R so if you'll go through the "sex shop" link on top of the page and then click "See All" you'll get a discount and Betty and Carlin will get their reward too.)

Is it OK to use the barbell

Mon, 04/16/2012 - 20:40
Nervous Nelly (not verified)

Is it OK to use the barbell if I have an IUD?

Yes, you can insert any kind

Tue, 04/17/2012 - 09:39
Carlin Ross

Yes, you can insert any kind of dildo when you have an IUD.  Kind of like having sex with a penis :)

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