I just discovered your site randomly out of curiosity for a question I had about myself. But I am writing to you because I have a problem that is quite frankly ruining my sex life. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now and have only had sex once. I've had a lot of experience before with my ex's and my current bf has had a lot less than I. Every time we are about to have sex, he loses his erection. Like by the time he even gets ME excited and I am ready, he's flaccid again. And I try to be patient but get really discouraged and even a little mad and give up. Honestly I don't have interest in giving a flaccid penis head, cause I feel awkward. How can he keep it up? What can I do to help make sure he doesn't go limp right before we get to the best part? Please help me Betty, I think I'm going crazy from sex deprivation.
The wrong person is asking the question. Your boyfriend needs to seek help from a surrogate partner under a therapist's guidance or get a sex coach. This is not a quick fix. Trying to have intercourse for the past 6 month with a man who loses his erection each time, my question to you is why do you want to stay with him? If you must continue to suffer, take fucking off the menu and do manual or oral sex. You can also share masturbation. An old Albert Ellis technique was to stuff his flaccid dick inside your pussy and once he's there, it just might get hard. No guarantee, but I do remember doing this back in the 60's and it worked. But I still found it to be a drag. I'd been married to a man who was very slow to get erect and once he penetrated it was all over in a minute of two. So once I became free again, I just wasn't interested in being a man's sex therapist. I'd say it's time for you to stop making yourself miserable and find some nice guy who is on your same sexual level.