Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Might be full of cliche's but it has all the psycology worked out perfectly. Find someone nice who cares about you who's really good at acting like a total bastard in a session if that's what you want. And when the session is over you have a nice friend who cares about you and your orgasms. 
If you want some variety you could try losening up your view and expectations of gender and try letting a man give you a loving experience. and also try switching so you have the all consuming desire for him. Having a range of mental states that turn us on is good I think, perhaps trying these fantasies and notions first masturbating Solo.

Ooh and yes, the way you feel is healthy.

If you go into a sexual encounter with a man knowing this is what you want and you give it freely, then it's no one's concerns but yours. Sometimes feeling dominated is nice (but not for me, I'm like a movie director moaning out orders) and if that's what you like, as my dad would say, who cares? You are also lucky enough to have a whole different approach with women. Those of us who are more locked in to what we find sexually attractive are more limited in the ways we can interact sexually. But if it bothers you, then switch it up. Men like being told to do, most of them really enjoy pleasing a woman and really find it sexy when a woman just tells them instead of expecting them to read our minds. Maybe next time you can hook up with a couple who makes it their mission to pleasure you.

The above title should have read, "Who should care to judge you if you are happy with how you view sex?" My mental voice was kinder, with a little wink and shrug meant to say that if you know what you want, there is no shame in wanting it. *Chastises self for writing posts while tired.

Stop It Betty!!  You have no idea how many lives you are destroying spiritually by promoting and encouraging rampant misuse and abuse of our procreative powers.  The time will come in the eternities when you will feel extreme guilt, and you will remember this comment.  However, there is still time to repent and save yourself from eternal misery by renouncing your promotion of indulging in unhealthy, unproductive, and selfish sexual appetites; if you change your ways and thinking before the end of the world comes, you will experience the eternal joy and happiness that are reserved for those who control their urges and who live lives of virtue.  One of the most frightening horrors that one may experience in the eternities is realizing that he or she has lost his or her virtue; if you start now and promote sexual purity and virtue, you will not have to experience an eternity of shame and regret.  Please, Betty, I beg you! Stop your promotion of perverse indulgence in the appetites of the flesh.  You have a lot of admirers and followers, and you are contributing to their spiritual destruction.  Stop it, Betty!!  Stop it!!

It wasn't rude it was grammatically confusing which everyone should have known what you meant anyway.  Like: If you are happy that all that matters.

I'm the same way! Well, almost. I typically consider myself straight, although I think women in generally are more attractive than men. Does that make sense?lol   Anyway the few times that I have fooled around with females I find that I slip into a more dominant role. With men I prefer it to be the other way around; and my fantasies cater to this too.
In the study of group dynamics you'll find that people tend to slip in a pecking order no matter how small the group. I think for most people its not something that's conscious they just sort of do it. I think in sex the role are more exaggerated than in other situations. Maybe because there's usually fewer people or maybe its just more of the awesomeness of sex. Sexuality, the one realm where you have to check most of your social constructs & political correctness at the threshold, leaving it all behind. Being yourself, being primal, being raw. There's no room for that other crap, especially when you're by yourself inside your own head. Betty's right, quit policing yourself when you're trying to please yourself. ;)