Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Like you I felt the same way at first.As time went on I discovered it made me feel better and i enjoyed doing it.i recommend if you have a partner masturbate in front of him/her.

I can empathize with you, C. When I was a kid, maybe 12, I'd just
discovered my body and had my first orgasms. Then the Church
stepped in, and informed me that I was a "mortal sinner" and on my way
to Hell. Guilt is far too mild a word. I was terrified, and spent my
whole adolescence distancing myself from my sexuality as far as I could.
I never did it again, in other words, until I was a young adult and
figured out that I'd been maliciously and cruelly lied to. I don't know
what your religious background is, but you might very well have received
either explicit or implicit messages (from society, your parents, church, etc.)
that sexual feelings and the body are sources of "evil" and that we
ought to be ashamed for having them. Those messages were very wrong. Sexuality is not
merely a source of pleasure, but a vital connection to all of life
itself. One of the finest things we can do to promote a saner world is
to treat ourselves kindly and reclaim that beautiful, vital connection for ourselves.

I understand the religiously induced guilt about masturbating, but you can get over that by masturbating more! It wasn't until I was in my late twenties, and after reading Betty Dodson's first book about female masturbation (I'm male), that I started to shed the guilt my religious upbringing had saddled me with.
I Had masturbated anyway, irregardless, but thanks to Betty, and that book of hers, I started doing it with less and less guilt!
My current wife and I have a very open-minded attitude towards masturbation; and we've even done it together! We frequently masturbate separately, too, and neither of us feel slighted by that. As for porn? I don't watch a lot of it, but I do occassionally; and my wife is fine with that. Our marriage is so much better than my first one (on a number of fronts). We talk openly about our sexual needs, which not enough couples do I'm afraid.
The best method of getting rid of masturbation guilt (I suggest) is to masturbate---and like it! You have to reprogram your head! Religiously fueled guilt is the most powerful form, especially if you get it early in church. I hate to say it, but religion can poision practically everything that's fun! Use masturbation as a cleansing ritual of that guilt. Celebrate the pleasure it gives you. Indulge it frequently. There isn't any harm in enjoying yourself like that.
Don't let the bastards grind you down!
Edgerman58

I had masturbation guilt for at 13 for about 5 minutes and this ended quickly for the activity was too good especially since I could not figure what the guilt was about so I blew it off. My guilt was via my sexually repressed mother and not religion. My bigger problem was figuring how to integrate girls into my incipient sexuality which has never been clear even to this day considering the vicissitudes of the female mind.

Are you blaming females?

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For those who are experiencing guilt over masturbation one viable option to assuage, limited or dismiss the angst over self-gratification would include rapidly striking oneself repeatedly in the head with a large stick after the pleasurable process has concluded.

 a lobotomy? Since we are striving to be archaic ;)