I Can't Satisfy My Girlfriend

Mon, 02/21/2011 - 09:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty,

I don't know how to completely satisfy my girlfriend as she only seems to get close to an orgasm through clitoral stimulation (Masturbation). The problem is that every time I try to get her to have a full orgasm, she seems to have multiple orgasms of increased intensity each time until she starts screaming of pleasure but then asks me to stop because she says that what she is feeling is just too intense and that she cant stand that intensity any longer, but if i keep touching her she keeps feeling more and more without completely coming (or getting to climax). She even says she still has desire for more sex.

My girlfriend says that she has never had an orgasm before and I am not sure if she is multiorgasmic or not. I just think she is repressing herself and I want her to have a full orgasm. I have some questions for you and would appreciate your help very much:

1. Is she definitely a multiorgasmic woman?, If so, will she ever have a big or complete orgasm? How can i get her to that point if she never allows me to do so?.... Are there any chances for me to get her into climax through penetration?..

I am 25 and she is 24, we have been together for 7 months now and I am starting to feel frustrated as I cant completely satisfy her, should I feel bad about it, and how can we work this out?

Thanks again for your help!

Dear A,

First off, don't take it upon yourself to "satisfy" your girlfriend. Just enjoy the sex you are having together. We are each responsible for our own orgasms and our own sexual satisfaction. Then we can share that with our lovers.

A young healthy woman can have as many orgasms as she wants until she is exhausted or as in your case, over stimulated. That's a matter of timing with rests in-between so the clitoris can calm down before she goes again. As long as clitoral stimulation is continued, a woman can keep coming. That's one of the big reasons why female sexuality has been controlled by society. We are bottomless pits when it comes to orgasms which can terrify many men. So don't look for one "full orgasm" like you have. This is one of the BIG differences between male and female sexual responses. You're a lucky man to have a multi-orgasmic woman. Although we are all capable of this, very few of us reach our full potential due to the misinformation and sexual repression in America.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time